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Sensitive Y4 DS came home in tears yesterday...

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kistigger · 27/03/2012 11:12

DS has always been a sensitive child and it is very rare that he comes home tearful or extremely moody, but yesterday was both. (I suspect he is mildly AS but the school are less convinced.) I managed to get out of him, after serious probing, that he had gone to another classroom to take another child's piece of work which had ended up in the wrong classroom back to them... and the teacher (of the other class) shouted at him for interrupting her. I did try to explain that many teachers would respond in that way if you interrupt them but he simply did not believe me!

He is adamant that as you get older and move up through school that teachers become more strict and shout more, he is now petrified of that teacher and this is only making his fears about going to secondary school worse. (He does not like to be told off generally, he gets very upset if he thinks people are laughing at him - often because he has not understood a joke being made, he thinks the world is ending if he does not get his way - not spoilt but simply cannot remember the most positive things and only remembers negatives therefore always feeling hard done by!!)

Do I approach the school, or just leave it as a single incident that isn't worth making a big deal about?

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igetcrazytoo · 27/03/2012 12:09

Hi, there is a wonderful book called "the highly sensitive child" by Elain n Aron - which I have found very invaluable. She reckons about 20% of the population have these sensitive traits - a bit like being a left hander in a right handed world.

Its worth reading if you think your child is sensitive -it helps you understand them and "helps them thrive when the world overwhelms them."

If you think its a big worry for him, then maybe a gentle word in passing to a kind teacher about his worries for the future may help.

By understanding him you will know when to step in on behalf of YOUR child, and not just the average child (which he's not).

Best of luck

mummytime · 27/03/2012 12:25

I would approach the school.
I would also suggest that you start looking at secondary schools, as some are better at dealing with sensitive children than others (and it's not always smaller ones that are better).

kistigger · 27/03/2012 22:30

Tried to talk to the teacher after school only to find they were not in this afternoon and it was a different teacher... looks like I'll have to try again tomorrow! He came out happy today after his music lesson last thing and wanted to tell me all about his trip to the athordontist this morning (DH took him first thing)!!

igetcrazytoo I've ordered the book from the library so will have a good read when it arrives, thanks. I had a look at the adult version of that book by the same author and found it somewhat confusing and not very relevant, so hoping the children's version is a lot better and more parent friendly!!!

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