Hello. Just registered! Please can someone give me some advice. My daughter is in year 3. She's in an all girl school. She's one of the youngest, although she looks about 9/10 as she's very tall. However, she is immature compared to her peers. She has little peer perceptiveness/awareness in social situations. Example, at a party at weekend, she stood out as she kept calling the dance instructor as she wanted to introduce their dance routine, then they played statues, when she was called out she moved to the side and continued dancing, because, as she told me, ' I knew I was out, I just wanted to stay dancing'. But what she didn't see were her class mates all looking angry at her, probably thinking she was trying to cheat. They speak very rudely to her, but she will never tell on them because ' she doesn't want them to get in trouble'. She just isn't savvy, very young and they were 8 going on 16 , she was more .Ike a 5 year olld boy. So I can that often her lack of peer awareness causes such treatment.
Am trying to give her more responsibilities at home to help her act a bit older but it's hard to watch her being left out of most things. From beginning of school, teachers have said she's the most compassionate, empathetic and caring child, which I love, but these lovely attributes at the moment, are not helping her with her peers. When they are mean to her she just says, that's not very nice. However, it seems to be upsetting her now and her confidence is being effected. Last nite she said she had no friends. Upsetting to see a sad little face that is normally always smiling. I am going to get her tested for food allergies as she's very lively, also going to talk to doctor about getting a child psychologist/therapist to find ways for us as parents to help her/things that we should or shouldn't be doing, and for her to get some coping mechanisms. She's doing OK with her school work but nneds to stay focussed/concentrate (as is always mentioned in reports).
Has anyone gone through anything like this? Would really appreciate your advice as I feel I havent a clue how to deal with it. Have asked to see her two teachers tomorrow to discuss.
Thanks a lot