Can I and should I ask this? Need answer ASAP!

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Ds2 in reception and some boys quite feisty and have been scratching others, DS2 has large scratch on his face, told school was very pissed off about their inability to control said problem children who are always the ones who do it.

I want to ask the teacher to tell ALL parents to ensure their child's nails are cut properly!!! Seems nuts but this would ensure kids are not scared!

I say this as DS2 aged 10 has a scar on his face from a scratch from another child in year 2.

I know the school should ensure this does not happen but they don't, I don't think it is an unreasonable request. We get letters about nits etc which are a health hazzard.

I am just fucked off with A - problem kids and the school being shite and B - sodding parents who can't cut their kids nails!

No I don't think you should ask a teacher to tell parents to cut their kids' nails. You will come across as unhinged and it won't have any effect

I think the school should stop any child scratching another child and instead you should ask the school what it's doing about this.

Unhinged? Why? I am not asking them to all pray to Kaballah over a pile of lemons at 11.15am everyday. That's inhinged. I feel so mad about it I want to go scratch the mother of said boy in the face, oh but that would be assault, with reception kids it's not?!?!? Go figure.

No. I think it is fair to ask what the school plan to do to stop children from scratching - at 10 they should not be doing that (if they were 4yo it would be different). But the school will not write to parents to tell them to cut their children's nails - it would be completely OTT for them to do that.

Nits are different - children with nits can't change their bahviour to avoid spreading them. But children with long/scratchy nails can choose not to scratch other children's faces.

AMumInScotland - these are 4 and 5 year olds - the OP says her ds2 is in Reception.

You should not ask for other parents to cut nails.
But you should ask what the school are going to do to stop children being scratched during school.

You're making no sense

First you say ds 2 is in reception, then you say ds2 is 10, which is it?

Could you maybe hint at it rather than asking them to tell all parents? Maybe say to the teacher that "some of the other boys must have quite long nails to cause actual scratches....shame as it means people get hurt...when surely it's just playing around".....that kind of passive-aggressive stuff?!?!

Gumby - I assume it's both and that's why she wants all parents told.

They can scratch with very short nails too.

Assume it's both?

Oh so she's got a reception child and a year 5 child, not two ds2s

Anyway why would a year 2 child be playing with a 10 yr old?

sorry perhaps unhinged was too strong, but honestly imagine a teacher sending letters home to parents telling them to cut their kids' nails? If I was a parent of a child at that school I would think the teacher / school was mad.

You need to ask the school what they are doing about the behaviour - no school-aged children should be going round scratching others, or playing so roughly this happens.

My childrens nursery/playschool have a notice up about keeping childrens nails cut short to avoid any scratching accidents.

I never took any offence at it and never heard any off the other childrens parents question it. I just assumed there was a "little Nipper" somewhere.

YANBU The letter could explain the consequences of long nails and at the same time ask parents to reiterate to their DC that scratching is not acceptable. Speaks as mum of a DC who in yr1 lost half his eyelashes to a swipe from a little b*stard child who needed to learn how to play.

Actually keeping nails short is excellent at reducing the incidents of threadworms so it's not a bad plan anyway. Our school has a policy of short nails because otherwise the kids start to paint them etc.

Sorry, yes DS1 is in y5 and DS2 in in reception, DS1 has a scar from when he was scratched in Y2. The issue is in reception and there is a lot of scratched faces and backs from the same 2-34 children.

I have just been in for an meeting about DS1 in year 5, regarding his dyslexia stuff - school are brilliant.

And I was asked how DS2 was getting on in reception and I mentioned the scratching issue, and the just casually said that it would help if all parents made sure nails were short and it would help, and the teacher said yes it would. So I said maybe you could mention it in the next letter that is ent out about reading and housekeeping stuff. She said maybe. She also said they school were dealing with it and I said good because I was very unhappy about it being the same boys continually.

So point made really. I think most parents do cut their childs nails, but some are just too stupid quite frankly, despite being normal working living breathing day to day adults and need it SPELLING OUT.