DD is nearly 6. She can be very shy and introverted altho' this isn't all she is. She's boisterous when anxiety levels are lowered. She has some friends but only 1 in her class and she relies on best friend in another class for company. She's only able to join in with her friendship group if best friend wants her, if friend doesn't she wanders round the playground alone. She also has great difficulty interracting with boys. She clams up if they speak to her. DD's teacher isn't overly concerned because dd is doing weell academically and seesm ahppy whether playing alone or with friends in the playground. This relieves me but I think being in a permament state of slight anxiousness and fear (of not feeling able to join in) is a normal state for dd, so she appears untroubled to her teacher. I think it's probably the equivalent of having permanent back pain but living with it because you know no different. For some reason today it's upsetting me.
I've spent some of today thinking about whether I'm doing a disservice to dd by sending her to her school. There's nothing wrong with the school, it's smallish and friendly. In an ideal world I'd like her to go to a school which sees her introversion as valid with its own qualities, where dd will feel secure. I've read countless school websites and virtually none state what they actively do to support their children e.g. playground friends, anti-bullying activities, circle time etc.
I'd love to know of anyone's positive experiences of schools local to me whether state or independent.
Thanks