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Back to school

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mrsmcv · 30/12/2011 18:22

Dreading going back. Me, not her. I can't be the only one....can I? Just hate it.

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mrsshears · 30/12/2011 18:58

No mrsmcv you're not,me too.
I'm expecting tears from dd on tuesday too

Seona1973 · 30/12/2011 21:02

we've got ages yet - mine not due back till the 9th!

skewiff · 30/12/2011 22:41

Yep, I am dreading it too.

Have found myself looking longingly at the home education threads ...

KTk9 · 30/12/2011 23:48

I was like this at the end of the Summer, just the thought of sending her into what appeared to me to be such a hectic environment from our own little safe world at home.

It was a bit drastic, but we decided to move her to a private school (I know this isn't always possible and we are very lucky to be able to do this), with smaller classes and more structure and a family atmosphere.

It is amazing how relaxed I feel at the moment about her going back next week, completely different to how I have felt every term since she started! She is also for once, looking forward to returning. Such a relief.

Raffiiscool · 30/12/2011 23:53

10th here- wish it was next week. And we still get a bloody feb half term week too! Wouldn't mind if the weather wasn't so cold dark and generally just pants all the time!!!

Iamnotminterested · 01/01/2012 13:07

Can't wait, personally. Mean mummy.

crazygal · 01/01/2012 16:19

im looking forward to ds going back to school,just for the normality and routine!!!!but at the same time dreading it,as ds has a hard time at school.:(

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mrsmcv · 03/01/2012 07:24

looking longingly at home ed threads too. hers is a good school, good enough at any rate. I just miss her so much. Argh! It's not as if they're young for long is it? No doubt when she's a teenager I'll be trying to remortgage the house so she can go to boarding school and she'll be only too happy to get rid of me but it's just so long a day and I can't help feeling she spends most of it lining up to go to the toilet or hearing one of the other 31 kids in her class get told off. Boo.

Good luck to all the other reluctant parents today.

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fuzzpig · 03/01/2012 07:30

I'm torn... I'm exhausted and not finding parenting easy at all right now. In that sense I'm glad she is going back today. She loves school so much so that's good, and it is a brilliant school too.

But last night she refused to sleep and was really anxious, even though she's been desperate to go back and see her friends since boxing day! She was really upset :( I don't understand as she loves school so much.

fuzzpig · 03/01/2012 08:26

And after all that she has skipped merrily off to school. :)

jubilee10 · 03/01/2012 09:31

I can't wait until they go back (next week). They seen to need so much input and it is so cold/wet outside. I've run out of things to do with them!

skewiff · 03/01/2012 20:19

DS really really doesn't want to go back. He says he feels sad. I also think all the lining up, sitting on the mat and military stuff, aswell as the being squashed in with too many children is too much for him already. He seemed to love it when he was there last term though.

I feel v pathetic, but find this whole thing of handing your precious child over to almost strangers stressful.

ommmward · 03/01/2012 20:27

Sympathies to those of you who don't want to send your children back to school... the holidays are just long enough to begin to unwind and really enjoy each others' company, aren't they?

I'm one of those smug home educating bastards. We're going on holiday on Thursday, now the trains will be almost empty again. We pretty much hibernate through the school holidays, since all our favourite haunts are stuffed to the gunwales with people who are usually institutionalised in school.

mrsshears · 03/01/2012 20:32

ommmward
I would love to HE my dd, she has come on in leaps and bounds over the holidays and now has to go back to school to have her confidence and love of learning knocked out of her again

ommmward · 03/01/2012 21:03

I sometimes think every family who feels this way should just stand up and say "NO MORE!" and downsize the family finances (no car, holidays with relatives, renting a small flat, the equivalent of one full time job between the two parents if it is a 2-parent family etc etc) so that they can just take the children out of school until (if ever) school becomes the best option for those children at some future point.

That'd be a great way to induce a housing crash, which might give people like me a chance to get onto the housing ladder before we are 50...

skewiff · 03/01/2012 21:16

I feel this way too, but there are no HE groups near to us, so socialising would be a struggle. DS already does a few out of school activities, but they are so quick that friends never seem to be made there.

AChickenCalledKorma · 03/01/2012 22:14

I'd love to have them at home for another week. Am just beginning to feel relaxed.

The DD's on the other hand have spent the last two solid days happily role-playing a very complicated "boarding school" game, complete with homework, french lessons, PE, dormitories and certificates for achievement. DD1 is the teacher and DD2 is all the pupils.

Are they trying to tell me something ?

PermanentlyOnEdge · 09/01/2012 14:24

Skewiff I feel exactly like you. The last few days watching DS become flattened and sad again because of having to be at school have been horrible. He has hated it since he started in sept and its getting no better. It doesn't help that I have little faith in his teacher although I don't allow DS to know this.

So wish it wasn't like this. He loved his nursery school and doesn't understand why he can't go back. I feel unhappy every day now. I pick him up and they say cheerfully 'oh he didn't cry so much today!'. He has always been such a happy boy the whole thing is just horrible.

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mrsmcv · 06/03/2012 23:10

Well, I am a grumpy old bag but fair's fair. If you're going to tell one side of the story, it's only right to give the other.
I was so annoyed and irritated by the school on the week DD went back, i rang the next nearest school to move her. School was full but the head rang DD's school, which of course came back to me via the head.

I had a meeting with head and class teacher and after weeks of badgering the school, bordering on harassment, DD is now a totally different child. She is delighted with school, full of confidence and swagger, is relaxed with her peers, confident in her interaction with them and virtually in love with both her teachers.

I personally think her teacher could do with actually educating them in maths, reading and writing but the fact that DD is happy and learning and looking forward to school is undeniable. I gave home ed really careful consideration, went to groups, did research etc and while I am convinced it's the best option for me, I'm not now convinced it's the best option for her. I wouldn't rule it out in the future. I just wanted and still want it to be a positive choice for dd, not emergency or last resort.

I know other posters had stresses over school, I hope progress is being made one way or another. Finding out I had options and what they were really helped me to help dd.

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choccyp1g · 06/03/2012 23:15

So do you think the school has actually improved how it treats your DD because they knew you were thinking of moving her? Was it a case of them finally listening when they realised you were serious about it?

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