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Can I run up to last years teacher and say 'Nah Nah I told you so' ?

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Lizcat · 05/12/2011 15:47

Long story, but basically last years teacher didn't get DD and didn't like me and DH. Many many issues, but when I expressed that DD was making mistakes in reading was because she was rushing to finish because she found the books easy and boring I was told to crawl back into my shell.
Cut to this year in the first 10 days she rises 5 reading levels out the top to free reader. Now the my Mummy heart is bursting with pride as she has been chosen as the best reader in the class to perform the reading at the Christmas carol service.
Last years teacher is so certain she is always right that a nasty part of me just wants to rub it in her face, of course I will only ever do it in my dreams.
Thank you for reading my undercover boast, but after last year's awfulness I can't help feeling so happy and proud.

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 05/12/2011 15:50

of course you can just very very quietly whilst standing 3 streets away

IndigoBell · 05/12/2011 15:51

Glad to hear there's a happy ending.

Presumably the teacher will notice that she's doing the reading at the Carol service. :)

spanky2 · 05/12/2011 15:58

All along I told my ds1 teachers that he was behind in his reading and spelling. Now at Junior School he has an IEP stage 1 and extra help twice a week! Nah Nah Ne Nah Nah!

keSnowBi · 05/12/2011 16:01

You could sidle up to her at the carol service while your DD was reading and innocently say, "gosh, it's amazing what good teaching can do, isn't it?"

...but that would be very undignified. Naughty Lizcat.

wahwahwah · 05/12/2011 16:01

I would include a raspberry with the Nya Nya Nya Nya Nyaaaaaaa. And possibly a 'ya boo sucks'.

PointyLittleDonkeyEars · 05/12/2011 18:14

I'm not sure I'd be able to resist gloating in those circumstances either...

MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 05/12/2011 18:19

My mum did, in fact go up to my old primary school teacher, when she 'bumped' into her at the christmas fayre, to pointedly let her know i had gone straight into the top set after a couple of weeks of secondary school.

very similar circumstances to yours, op!! (30 years later though!!)

It was clearly lots of water off a duck's back to the old bag but I did have an huge sense of pride in my mum for giving it a go!!

libelulle · 05/12/2011 18:24

Go for it:) The headmaster of my first primary school told my parents with great feeling that they'd permanently ruin my education if their took me out of his school. They were smug delighted to be able to mention, 11 years later, that I was off to an, ahem, really quite good university. He had the good grace to apologise!

teacherwith2kids · 05/12/2011 19:25

It's sooooo tempting, isn't it??

DS moved from his first school - at that point he was extremely anxious, a selective mute and with all his ASD-ness in full uncontrolled flow. I HEd him for a while until we moved and he re-evntered a new school, and his first school head suggested that 'well, he might never be able to integrate into a mainstream school, you know'.

I happened to go back to the same village about 2 or 3 years later, and met the head again. DS was at that point milling around with a crowd of other kids, playing football, chatting 19 to the dozen, and responding happily to lots of adults who were asking him about his 'new' school. I was very pleased to report to the head (who was watching him with her mouth wide open) that he was also thriving at school and had no trace of any of his earlier difficulties ....

JUST avoided thumbing my nose at her, but ooooh, it was sooooo tempting...

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Lizcat · 05/12/2011 21:51

Glad I'm not the only one. Sadly DD is no in a different department so the old teacher won't be at the carol service to see her.

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Malaleuca · 05/12/2011 22:41

Children shoulddn't be making mistakes if a book is 'easy' - it's with new material that you should expect to see errors.
Maybe the teacher's thorough approach is what has allowed your daughter to progress - after all the previous year's teaching has seeemeingly had a good effect in her placement in the new class.
I would be seeing red flags if a child was making mistakes in an easy book and using 'boring ' as an excuse.

Malaleuca · 05/12/2011 22:43

sorry - sounds abrupt an too many typos, but there are usually two sides to a story and I thought I'd put a scenario for the other side. :)

Hassledge · 05/12/2011 22:46

My lovely ex-MIL did go out of her way by quite a considerable length to tell ex-H's old primary teacher, the one who told her during a parents' evening that he wouldn't ever amount to much, that he had completed his PhD and was lecturing. It almost sounded like she had hunted this teacher down - she'd born a grudge for almost 20 years :o.

Athrawes · 05/12/2011 22:51

Or you could just have a bit more understanding of the people who look after your kids all day, working at least from 8 to 5 plus evenings and weekends, do marking while their own kids wonder why Mummy never plays with them, pay for treats and goodies for their classes out of their own pocket, write reports, wipe snotty noses, deal with abusive parents and very often provide the only safe place in the lives of a heap of sorry wee children. For very little money.

Yes, that teacher may have been a bit crap, and yes, your kid's education is a big deal and a once only opportunity, but I am over the teacher attacking tones of MN.

IndigoBell · 05/12/2011 23:19

Sorry, Athrawes. I thought this thread was fairly light hearted. Sorry if it didn't read that way to you.

We can respect teachers and also be annoyed with one or two annoying things that happen. Maybe that teachers system for assessing reading wasn't brilliant, and could be improved. Maybe her communication style with parents wasn't brilliant and could be improved.

That's all that's been implied here - in a light hearted way. That one or two aspects weren't brilliant. Not that she was terrible overall.

thegirlwithnoname · 05/12/2011 23:30

Oh gosh, how I would love to go back to DD's yr 5 teacher and thumb my nose at her. DD is doing marvelously in sixth form and is being pushed by the head of science of her school to try and get into Cambridge (disclaimer, I no that it sounds like I'm stealth boasting and it might not be possible for dd anyway) so Miss T [thumb nose emoticon] to you.

keSnowBi · 06/12/2011 12:29

Athrawes, I doubt Lizcat is going to do anything at all. And while I appreciate it must be frustrating to hear lots of complaints, MN is a a place where people come to vent.

Also, of course many teachers do a wonderful job, but given her post, do you really believe that Lizcat does not have the right to be a bit pissed off? Must ALL teachers be deified because "teachers do marking while their own kids wonder why Mummy never plays with them?"

Don't make her a scapegoat.

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Lizcat · 06/12/2011 13:24

Yes the thread was meant to light hearted and as I said I would only ever do this in my dreams.
I do respect all the teachers DD has had so far and when I was told I was wrong last October I took that on board and followed all the advice that the teacher gave even though nothing appeared to be working.
As I said there were other issues and the teacher really did not like me and thought that my DD clearly lived in a very adult world. I did not mean to attack other teachers and really it was an undercover boast.
I do understand about teachers sacrificing their time with their children as I sacrifice my time with DD to fix animals for people.

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tectime · 06/12/2011 15:13

Yes! Aboslutely!

Yes, there are many good teachers - but too few and far between in my experience. As a school child of the 70's, I have noticed over the decades how some graduates have become teachers - when in the 70's and 80's they would have faced more robust competition.

MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 06/12/2011 17:06

I am a really, really excellent harding working and fabulous teacher and I still want to go back and sock it to my old cowbag of a rubbish primary school teacher.

tectime, your post makes me . there are really awful teachers out theere but the vast majority are really hard working and caring, like me

tectime · 06/12/2011 17:53

I am sorry MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire

I am just voicing an opinion on teachers I have come across.

MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 06/12/2011 19:23

no offence taken ...one of the interesting things about being a teacher is that absolutely everyone has an experience/opinion on teachers and what we do. It can get a bit wearing when they are not aware of the full picture and offering advice or criticism.

That aside, there are some shockers out there who really do more damage than good and really shouldn't be teaching.

MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire · 06/12/2011 19:24

wearing

tectime · 06/12/2011 19:40

Hi MigratingChestnutsOnAnOpenFire

I have an admission to make, I spend up to 2 hrs a day with each of my children undertaking supplementary English and Mathematics - using books from the halcyon days of the 50's. When I see teachers refusing to provide differentiated homework, when my DC can cope with homework some two to three ahead, then it concerns me.

I hope the NC review harks back to the rigour of those days.

Fraidylady · 06/12/2011 19:49

Where are you doing that tectime?
I have quite a lot of rigour in my timetable thank you!

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