Any teachers please,how is the best way for me to approach this?

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My dd has recently been found to be highly gifted following an private assessment instigated by ourselves to try and get to the root of problems dd had been having.
School are very reluctant to see dd as anything other than a quirky child who is slightly above average but has a very pushy mother who has over inflated ideas about her childs ability(dd is very introvert and also quite bored at school which makes matters worse as if something is too easy she really can't be bothered with it)
I have a meeting with school tomorrow to discuss dd and see what provisions are going to be made for her,i'm not looking forward to it as i think they will be very negative and defensive as they have been proven wrong about dd,my question is do any teachers know the best way i can approach this? i'm very keen to move forward and make sure my dd gets what she needs and the last thing i want to do is go in like a bull in a china shop and make things worse.
thanks

In our case all professionals in NHS multi disciplinary team felt there was no need to test for ASD as they had no concerns. The reasons they gave us as examples of why they did not need to carry out ASD testing included the good adult social interaction/eye contact and top score on comprehension but I guess they cant have seen any indicators of ASD in their meetings and IQ assessment. Having said that he loved the IQ test and 1 to 1 adult interaction so would have been a delight in the assessment. School did not report any signs of ASD either. We were advised DS had IQ in top 1% and this caused some social interaction issues and he was emotionally immature but no reason to do any further tests.

We accepted this and only other option would be to go private but unlikely that NHS or school would accept any different result from their findings.

Hi, coffeeortea - as a matter of interest, if the school didn't have problems, why was your ds assessed?

School referred DS to paed, she then referred on to multi disciplinary team. Schools main concern was a medical condition although they noted some social interaction issues with his peers but better with other age groups.

Ah, OK. It doesn't sound as though ASD was ever really seriously considered, then. I do think some medical conditions can exacerbate anxiety in some people, which in itself can provoke all sorts of symptoms that bear huge similarities with some autistic-like behaviours.

Displaying frustration and boredom by coming home sad because the teacher doesn't give you the top group's maths work when you want to be allowed to do it seems a slightly atypical way of showing frustration and boredom to me.