No, you haven't offended me, IB. I have huge admiration for your determination to do the very best you can for your dd and I do understand that things can look very different from the other side of the school gate.
I'm sorry that you think that learning to read 'reasonably well' isn't good enough. It really is a fact that if a child doesn't learn to read at primary they fall further and further behind their peers and that much of what I can do in Y7 and beyond is narrowing rather than closing the gap. If a child has masses of support and help at home they can achieve more on the reading front, but when they come from a household where reading is more of a necessary evil than a skill to be enjoyed in its own right there is not much more I can do beyond give them the basics and as much practice as possible. As I work in an area of high social deprivation there is a lot of the latter to contend with.
When I start working with a child I not only have to fill in all the gaps (and sometimes start from very near the beginning) but I have to try to eradicate 6 years worth of poor reading habits and often a measure of psychological damage. Which means counteracting physical bad habits, notably 'glance and guess', and work with attentional deficits (as likely to be caused by the boredom of not being able to access the curriculum for 6 years as by any 'deficit' within the child), poor short term/working memory, and disinclination to engage because of fear of 'failing' yet again.
I can't even give the children the sort of intensive daily work which they would get in primary, there are too many of them. A primary may have 2 or 3 real strugglers. I get at least half of them from all of our 'feeder' primaries (2 secondaries in our area) so I have rather more to work with than would one primary school.
So, 'reasonably well' for a child who has all these disavantages (and of whom the primary has more or less said he will never 'get it') is, for me, an achievement.
I just keep seeing all these very clever kids who's whole life has been ruined because of their 'dyslexia'.
But not all children are 'very clever kids'. They can just be lovely, amusing, interesting,ordinary, potential solid citizens who will never achieve much in the the academic line (and don't want to), but who will have a better life chance because they can read reasonably well...