Enthusiastic DD puts her hand up in class but never gets picked

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DD is almost 8.

She is very enthusiastic about school and I get the impression she loves to get involved with anything and everything.

She has mentioned to me hoever that in any question and answer sessions she always put her hand up but never gets picked / chosen to answer.

I have explained to her that the teacher may realise she knows the anser so wants to give other children an opportunity. She is in a class of 30.

Is this the right approach. Should the teacher be including her sometimes etc.
Also there was a recent Show and she was the last person to be picked.
Similar things also happened in Year 2.

Thanks for reading.

You need to ask the teacher too, otherwise you are getting it from only one perspective.
I only pick quiet hands, not the ones accompanied by grunts and moans and the like. Does she call out over others? Someone has to be last in show and tell, if it was every time I'd be asking why, but if she needs to learn that it's not always her turn first, then waiting is good practise. As long as she gets her turn.
Enthusiasm is lovely, but some children get steamrolled. As long as the teacher is being fair and including her proportionately, then it seems OK.

How do you know she never gets picked?

ever?

If her hand is always up and she never ever ever gets picked, that would be really odd.

Is it not possibly more likely that it is "I NEVER get picked!" as in 'I don't get picked every time/every day/lots"

You know, fall out with one friend and everybody hates me. That sort of thing.

I agree with DownbytheRiverside. I think you really should clarify it with the teacher.

Thank you.

I dont think she is calling out the answer. At least I hope not....
Sorry I meant Show as in Play rather than show and tell :)

You are probably right. Girls are very up and down!

Just to think about it, assuming 30 children in a class. If the teacher is being absolutely fair then they will be picked one time in 30. Actually that may well feel to a child that they are "never picked", particularly if their teacher doesn't ask many questions. They may well not be answering a question a day, or even every other.

I would suspect it is probably her perspective, or it could be as DbtR suggests and she tends to call out or something, or that the school has a policy of picking on a child who doesn't have their hand up.

Dd2 tends to over dramatise anything she can and she once told me she was "always last in show and tell". The next time she did show and tell, I casually asked who came after her, and she listed several children. A few days later she repeated that she was "always last".

It's why I keep tick lists with dates for everything such as certificates, star of the week, assembly roles, special 'time to pick someone' situations. Primarily to ensure that I do let everyone have a turn, but also as evidence for the irritated parents of 'I never get to do nuffink' and 'oh X is always picked instead of me'
They come in all huffing and puffing, and I have evidence that their child's view is very subjective.
Harder to do for carpet time, because I'm supposed to be teaching the class.

I have a pot of lolly sticks with the children's names on.

When I want a question answered /an idea to get us started / someone to take the register to the office etc etc I pick out a lolly stick.

It is demonstrably 'fair' - I rarely do 'hands up' tbh as I need to be able to make certain that everyone is involved in every lesson (last time I had an observed lesson, the observer had a class list and ticked each person who contributed / i spoke to - and woe betide me if that wasn't absolutely everyone) and 'handsup' allows some children to get away with never answering

Thank you all so much for your kind responses.
I think you have all hit the nail on the head!

Are you a regular, or only visiting? There should be at least another 50 posts with you getting irate with Life The Universe and Everything to do with all teachers everywhere at any time. Finishing with a declaration that you are writing to the head, the governors and the queen to get the teacher sacked for bullying....

Funny! I did laugh out loud!!! :)
Thank you Downbytheriverside.

I agree that it would be odd for a teacher NEVER to pick a child and I am now assuming it is my DD's interpretation. Unless there was another reason... which I am beginning to doubt.

I hardly ever post and just wanted some reassurance on this subject, which I "think" I have now. Thank you :)