How do your school deal with disruptive children?

[sandyballs]

I'm interested to hear as a very good friend of mine has a DD who is 10 and is in year 6 with my DD. Her DD has never been diagnosed with anything but is severely behind academically and struggles with attention span and with social issues/aggression.

The mum has been called into school a lot since the start of year 6 as their teacher finds it very hard to deal with her daughter and seems stunned that she hasn't been diagnosed with something more specific by year 6, she is under the speical needs teacher and sees an educational psychologist but that is it.

She constantly calls out in class, mucks about, distracts the other children and the teacher sounds like she has had enough of it and regularly keeps her in, or puts her on a table on her own to avoid distraction or sends her into the corridor. My DD has said she is a massive distraction and the teacher spends a lot of time trying to deal with her.

Anyway, the point of my post, the mum is cross at the way the teacher is handling this and is demanding a meeting with the head, the teacher and the SN as she doesn't want her daughter being isolated by being outside/on a table on her own etc.

I'm trying hard to see both sides, but I don't like the fact that she is such a disruption and i can see why the teacher does this - what do other schools do out of interest?

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"she is under the speical needs teacher and sees an educational psychologist but that is it." what do they suggest? How does the mum want the teacher to handle it, given that she also has another 25+ children to teach?

Sorry - can't give you any pointers from other schools as not been in same situation, but it's a tricky one.

I'm not sure how she would like them to handle it, I just know that she isn't happy with the school. I think she feels that her DD is victimised and they aren't doing enough to help her. But like you say, there are loads of other children, 30 more! She basically thinks the school is crap, their year 6 teacher is unkind and not making an effort with her DD and she's wishing this year away, hoping secondary will be an improvement.

Firstly, it's up to the parent to get a dx, not the school. The parent should go to her GP and ask for a referral to a child development paedetrician, so she can be fully assessed.

Secondly, it doesn't sound like it's being handled well. In theory the EP should be advising school of strategies to help.

If the school can't handle her despite following the EPs advice, then they should apply for a statement. (Assuming her difficulties are really bad, and can't be managed by the teacher)

So I guess the parent should be asking school if the're going to be applying for a statement seeing as they are struggling with her so much. And if school don't - then she can.

But this will require her to face up to her daughter's difficulties, and not just blame school.