"but I hate school!"

[SixthSenseofEntitlement]

Reassure me - a four year old saying they hate school on a Sunday night isn't anything, is it? Just moaning?

She seems happy enough, very tired, and she says there are no books and the children are naughty, but she would say that - she likes books and rules, to a point where it becomes quite inconvenient at home. She also isn't quite on it yet with the toilet, but she doesn't seem that upset about that.

Should add - I had an awful time at school, I wanted to HE DD, but can't because of my health. So I am most probably being a bit over alert.

Hope you went back to bed!
It's early days, still settling in.
Good friendships can help a lot.

She has good friends, I think. It mostly seems to involve doing a baffling array of "flips" on the climbing frame. About the only thing she will tell me about school (apart from there being no books and lots of naughty children) is that she can now do one foot flips and sit at the top without holding on.

Ds tells me regularly he hates school.

Last week I asked if he had a favourite thing he did at school. Really pleased when he said he did. Less pleased when he said that favourite thing was home time....

I would speak to the teacher and make her/him aware of your DDs need for order and structure and that she doesn't like school. She is very young and maybe not ready for that yet, but it may help to work together with the teacher in the first instance and try and solve the problem together. The teacher may not be aware of the problem.

Don't let it bother you too much, as she will pick up on this. I think you watch behaviour really carefully, and you will know if she hates school. Is she unusually grumpy and difficult, or unexplainedly tearful and anxious? Is she refusing to go, or feeling sick? If she seems fine, I wouldn't worry too much at the moment.
Have you talked to teachers about whether she is cheerful during the day?
Sometimes there is a little part of the school day which worries them-- something like going to lunch or changing for PE, and you have to be a detective to figure out what it is (they often don't know or won't tell).

Agree with snailoon

You have my sympathies, my DS is still like this at 6! For my DS, think its just some kids are more 'homebodys' than others.

Apparently DP used to just go home some days in primary school "just wanted to be with you, Mum"

Am hoping its just a phase & will grow out of it.

The latest one (again in the morning) "I'm not keen on school. I don't like changing things. Will I be keen when I am bigger?"

She also made me give her sums to do, and then some harder ones (still quite simple - adding and subtracting up to ten and the 2 x table) and put them in her school bag to show the teacher. Maybe she is bored?

She isn't amazingly clever, but has been doing things at home for a while that others might think odd, just because of what we do as a family - she likes colouring in maps of ancient times, for example. Strange child - I have very little interest in maps, but she jumps on them in the history books.

So maybe the school approach is strange to her? Does it get better as it goes on?

Well, my DS is generally keen or at least ok with school but on Tuesday morning I got "is it the weekend yet?". Think it's first term tiredness and November.. I'm feeling like hibernating too...