meanies

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Do you believe everthing you hear about other school mums? I have been told unkind things about a couple of mums at DD's school and have later found out that they are really nice people. Thank goodness I always give the benefit of the doubt. However I know some people avoid certain mums because "so and so dosn't like them". It's not very nice is it? Does this happen at your school or is the school playground more civilised?

School mums are no different to any other people. If some one tells me something about some one that I don't know, I mentally file it away, but get to know them first before deciding if the judgement is correct. Surely that's what most people would do?

The playground is a minefield and IME, it's best not to get involved.

However, some of the unkind things said about people are actually true. Some people who appear to be nice are only being nice because they want something from you - like picking children up/taking to clubs etc.

I suppose it's the modern equivalent of chimpanzee grooming & pecking orders, we are a highly social species, after all.

Dads are as bad as the women for gossip, btw, ime. ... and what the adults end up saying about the kids is as bad as what they say about fellow parents. The funny thing is that the kids mostly forgive & forget, it's the adults who feel the need to wag tongues.

Yes, i agree redsky but I know some people avoid these women purely based on rumours without getting to know them. It's such a shame but people are people I suppose. I think I shall just keep smiling (at everyone) and keep all conversations on a non personal level.:)

I've always worked on the basis of 'take as you find' but that others' opinions can be classed as 'forewarned is forearmed'.
Just because someone is not liked by A doesn't mean that I'll have the same experience.
As you say, nod and keep smiling.

School gate thing is a minefield.

If I could go back to when DC started school I would be polite and let the kids make the friends.

However it is very difficult to see the same people day after day and not hear/see things that are unpleasant.

Really tricky.