YR struggling with getting dressed after PE-humiliation the best solution?

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I need to know if I am being precious or whether my son's teacher is being unreasonable. DS is 4.3yrs and was sent home from school last week with all his clothes on inside out.

He had been like that for over 4 hours as the PE lesson was in the morning.

All his uniform was the right way round, ie v neck of his jumper at the front, trousers button at the front but pockets flapping, very obviously inside out.

We were not allowed back inside the school at home time to change, so had to walk home like that with everyone staring.

He was very upset and humiliated.

I have spoken to the teacher to say that perhaps it would have been kind to just mention to my son that he had got his clothes on inside out and offer him the opportunity to correct it, perhaps at lunchtime. I explained that I do not expect the teachers to help him dress but that it wouldn't hurt to say something to him.

He response was that they do not have time and that he was just taking far too long and that we should practice at home! He is fine dressing at home, I just ned to help with buttons on his shirt.

Any ideas?

I don't believe that everyone was staring at him. How would they even notice in a playground full of children?
I think you need to set a better example and learn to laugh it off, or pretend not to notice at all

If you don't get a satisfactory and sympathetic respoinse then go to the HT after.

Who has identified the ASD traits in your little boy? If it's the school they should be helping with this, not ignoring it

if it's you/HV then you mighr want to discuss this more fully with the HT or senco and get some strategies and help put in place. It isn't something they can just gloss over...useless behaviour on part of the teacher. Makes me angry.

Best of luck report back, we'll help as much as we can

You would seriously make an appt to see the teacher over this?
This is bonkers.

MrsR, the child was distressed, the mother did not react obviously

The child also has Autistic traits

please don't be so dismissive

Oh God, that's made me cry

I would defintely complain to the headteacher, then practice, practice, practice getting dressed at home.

Thank you JanePumpkin, we saw a consultant child psychiatrist and developmental psychiatrist. Perhaps I need to discuss this further with the school as the teacher may just think that I suspect and am being a fussy Mum.

Mrs R perhaps you could take the time to actually read the thread before being so judgemental. You clearly have no experience of SEN like the ones my DS has.

Yes, as a lot of posters here have...people think 'PFB' because it's easier, but if you actually speak to them, take the report from Cpsych with you and say 'what measures are you actioning to help with this'

they might take you more seriously.

You could also try for advice/info on the SN section here, it's full of helpful people

My (reception) ds regularly puts his jumper on backwards. I think he does it deliberately. Yesterday was the first time someone commented on it from school. He thought it was really funny.
He's also put his entire games kit over his uniform on more than one occasion.

He doesn't like getting dressed so we really worked at it over the holidays, before then I think he'd have been doing well to come out without both legs down the same leg hole!

DS used to do that all the time. it was the only way I knew he had had PE. He used to laugh about it when I pointed it out to him.

Why was he so humiliated?