behavioural reward chart in reception

[tiger66]

My little boy has just started in reception -well 6 weeks ago. They have a rainbow system whereby if they do positive things they get moved up to silver and then gold for further good behaviour. If they are naughty they get moved down to orange and then further down to red. In the first week it appeared that everyone in the class managed to get at least up to gold and get a sticker at the end of the day, however since then my little boy hasn't moved. I am pleased to say that he hasn't moved down but neither does he ever seem to move up.

I did approach the teacher and she said they get moved up for kind behaviour, sharing, politeness etc. That day my ds got moved to gold but since then not moved again. I spoke to my ds who said that it is still good not to move at all but I notice every day a lot of children coming out having moved up at least one or two places. He says that he is kind and shares and polite but never moves. He doesn't seem bothered by it but I am. Maybe I shouldn't be. He is generally a very lovely boy(in my opinion!) so I wander where he can improve to get moved up! I don't want the teacher to feel that I am a pestering mother but wander how important is it? I want to help him but anything that I suggest that he does at school to help him get moved up doesn't seem to work!

Maybe I should not care and be happy as long as my little boy seems happy at school. Helpful comments would be appreciated.

I am the same. My boy has been there for weeks and not once got star of the day of the weekly one. Not so worried about the weekly one as thirty kids or so but has had nothing ay all. Not had letters home saying he naughty either. He can be a pain and by no means perfect but am starting to get slightly pissed off he has had nothing . What I try to remember that as a kid I was never star of the play or the teachers pet and I survived it. I think some teachers just favour some kids . And some parents shout louder than others x

Zombie thread.
And this sort of shit is exactly why many schools have ditched the idea of these bloody stupid charts. They're a nightmare to run.

My DD talks about moving names down at home. I never know what she's on about but this must be it. I was very hard on my daughter (in how I was thinking of her when she first started school) I felt like she was shy, away with the fairies, not as confident or picking up things has easily as others. The teacher said she was shy and daydreamy and needed lots of reminders to try get her to remember routine. I came away feeling I had failed her. But I thought about it for a few weeks. Now I think she's four years old. She's in her first experience of life away from the safety of her home. No she's not the confident child. No she's not reading like a whizz or writing neatly yet. She's probably never going to get a lead role in a play or be a leader but she is her own person. What truly matters to me right now is she's there and she likes going. She's happy. She's learning at her own pace.

This is probably the best stance to take with your little boy. He is a good boy. He's not going down. He perhaps isn't like the enthusiastic helpful kids. It isn't a bad thing. Some children are more inclined to offer help and show the teachers their skills. Others tend to keep to themselves abit more. I think it should be good and bad and that's it. Then if someone is unkind or doesn't listen then fine put their name in the room for improvement box. I don't see the benefit of having five levels. Not when all children vary in the way they cope and handle things. I wouldn't worry. It seems too much x