Year 5 child a little scared of teacher - should I say something?

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9 year old dd couldn't find her spelling book last night - became tearful and a little hysterical. Still concerned this morning that her teacher would 'shout at her'. Her teacher is a bit manic tbh - either Tigger happy and bouncy or Eoyore morose and grouchy! Am not overly happy about dd being anxious about going to school and seeing her class teacher. Should I say something and if so how? (in order to prevent possible repercussions due to me 'complaining')

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A year 5 SHOULD be able to look after their belongings so maybe a bit of a telling off for 'losing' the book would do her some good?

Or am I missing the point?

Yes you are - perhaps I should have pointed out that dd is dyslexic and an inability to organise themselves, remember things etc is a recognised feature of the condition.

And anyway I don't think even with an NT child losing stuff warrants shouting at them [sits on hands and avoids use of appropriate emoticon]

Although I do agree with you that a telling off has its place....but to the point of invoking anxiety in the child though?

Yes you should have pointed out that your dd was a special case -presumably her teacher knows and will make allowances?

Otherwise I don't think being a little ( just a little) scared of having to tell your teacher you've lost something you presumably had yesterday when you're in year 5 is necessarily a bad thing!

Perhaps teacher doesn't understand this dimension (personal organisation) of dyslexia - there is very little input re. SpEd needs in teacher training. Perhaps I'll mention it to her

She wasn't a little scared - she was crying and rather agitated last night.

She has been through 5 years of primary education before this year and hasn't expressed any 'fear' of her previous 5 class teachers so I suppose that's why this is flagging up as a bit of a concern to me. I guess I could leave it a little longer and 'suck it and see' though before doing anything

ds age 9 is also dyslexic and has to learn to be organised and not lose homework diary, spellings etc. I'm afraid call me a harsh parent but if he doesn't learn now with a telling off from his teacher then in 2 years when he gets to high school and has lots of different teachers he will be stuffed.

My sons major problem is remembering his homework diary so he can do his homework, firstly I thought he kept forgetting on purpose but he does forget, but I can't keep reminding him he has to be responsible and he must get into the habit of sorting himself out. If he gets a detention then thats what happens, the sooner he learns to sort himself out the better he will be in years to come. But if he was becoming distressed I might ask the teacher to go a bit easy on him but not to let him off completely.

"But if he was becoming distressed I might ask the teacher to go a bit easy on him but not to let him off completely" - that seems fair...

Have you considered the fact that the teacher is not actually shouting, but is just speaking sternly? Agree that your DD should be organised by Y5 and not lose things. You could talk to the teacher about your DD's reaction and see what she says.