"can we go to someone's house?" driving me mad

[Sleepglorioussleep]

This is the first thing dd says to me every single day. Not hello, no hug, just this. It makes me feel unwanted, as if home's rubbish and I can't bear it. Lost the plot about it today. She will have two playdates this week so it's not as if we never do any. Am I the only one or am I a horrible, nasty mother?

How old is she?

And Don't Take it Personally

It's not about you, she is trying to do some mad friendship thing

Nearly six. Unfortunately today I did take it personally! And ranted about it. Great parenting. I hated being at home and think I fear that she does too.

Apparently my 3 year-old is going for a two day sleepover tomorrow with a random child in her nursery. First me or her parent's knew about it. Really, don't take it personally, it's a young child's equivalent to Facebook.

It gets worse as they get older.

*can I go to Ruby's house?"
"Can Ruby come over?"
"Can I go to youth group with Ruby? It's only £5.50, oh and £5.00 for a drink and a biscuit".
"Can I go out and then invite 12 friends over?"
"Can I have £30 for a taxi home?"

sleep - see it's an anxiety friendship bonding thing. It'll calm down.

Thanks for words of wisdom! Am I helping or hindering by providing play dates regularly?

I allow, under duress, one a week , no more. But still get the 'can so and so come round, her mum said yes'

No no, lots of playdates, it will help her feel established and she'll calm down.

When she says it every day, if it's not a play date day, you could say, I know, I love seeing my friends too, and you're lucky, cos we have got two playdates this week! Come on, let's go and...whatever

Good-will carry on then. I fear the and...whatever is "go home, do spellings and reading and get very little attention because I'm feeding a baby and trying to get tea ready and keep your brother from climbing the Walls!" must try harder!

yes, you might want to make it sound more attractive...what about, watch telly and eat biscuits?

Thank you, I now have permission!

Tomorrow we'll have tea in the playtent and watch a DVD. She'll be begging not to have playdates soon!

Sometimes, telly and biscuits are your bestest friends.

Don't let anyone tell you different.

I get this all the time. Dd is with CM 2 days (which are like playdates), and we have one play date - sometimes 2. I don't blame her for wanting friends to play with - I like it too! I don't want to play like a 6 yr-old. I do feel the need to have the odd quiet afternoon and get her reading done.

Please tell me that the biscuits can be shop bought! Custard cream anyone?