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Any primary teachers about? Need some advice re DD's new class please

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Poledra · 06/09/2011 22:57

7-yo DD started back at school this week, in a mixed class of year 3/4 (she's year 3). She's been placed at a table with 5 boys, 3 year 4 and 2 year 3 - no other girls. None of these boys are friends of hers - the particular group of 2 boys and 2 girls that she is friendly with have all been placed together with 2 other year 4 children.

Why would a teacher do this? Why put her as the only girl, with none of her friends? She is a well-behaved, hard-working intelligent little girl - we have never had any complaints about her behaviour over the last 3 years at all. She's really not happy about this, and Im trying to be positive about it to her face but TBH I'm struggling and want to go and see the teacher about it, but don't want to over-react.

Any advice gratefully received! Thanks

PS DH is away on business, so I don't have another adult here to 'talk me down'

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dolphin84 · 08/09/2011 17:22

My dd was is in a similar situation in year 1. She only had a couple of friends. (2 girls) and they were put in a different class. She was on a table with mainly boys and she became good friends with 2 of them. One very close! In year 2 she was on a table of girls and boys who she never really clicked with.
Not sure gender is important but behaviour is. Really isn't fair for your dd to be on a table full of children who put her off work.
Hope you get it sorted.

Poledra · 14/09/2011 21:50

Sorry, forgot to come back and update! I sent an email to the teacher asking for an appointment and explaining that DD was unhappy in her group and that this was what I wanted to discuss. I got a short, polite note back saying that she would fix it - her problem is that there are many more boys than girls in the class, but she would find a solution.

So, at the beginning of this week, a number of children were moved around, and DD has been placed on a table with 2 other girls and 3 boys, seated next to one of the boys who happens to be a friend. She is a very happy little girl (well, apart from discovering that KS2 is much harder work than KS1, but she'll just have to get on with that!). I did take the time yesterday to quickly thank the teacher at hometime for her help in sorting it out, so hopefully, she doesn't think of me as a 'Parent to be avoided'!

Thank you all for your help - it's great to be able to get views from impartial observers!

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sugartongue · 15/09/2011 09:53

I think she ought to brace up and get on with it. I know that sounds harsh, but if she's an intelligent girl and her potential is to end up a professional, she ought to get used to dealing with men now because it's a skill she's going to need!

sugartongue · 15/09/2011 09:54

oops, didn't read the whole thread - already sorted!

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