Lemonade given at Nursery parties

[doodygirl]

My eldest child is at nursery attached to infant school. The infant school claims it is a healthy eating school. Every half term the nursery have a party and the chldren are given lemonade. I was shocked at first but haven't said anything yet. My child is the oldest in the year (early Septembber birthday).

In September my second child starts, who is August birthday and I am not keen at all on her having lemonade. My eldest child had never had any fizzy drinks before he attended the nursery.

Do you think I am making a fuss? I really don't think it is appropriate.

It depends entirely on the DC-I am trying, and failing, to imagine DS2 eat any raw vegetable at all.

"Everytime I let them try something that they have not previously craved - e.g. the first time I gave them chocolate, or crisps.... they endlessly ask for it, and it becomes part of their 'treats' cycle."

that's my experience too. nothing to do with being "restrictive" or not "chilled out" (horrible phrase). Others have different experiences and that's fine.

Some people breastfed longer than I did. I didn't take this as an implied criticism of my own feeding so I didn't see a need to mock them or tell them to "chill out" (and certainly not to "chill.out.") or suggest that they were uptight parents who failed to get things in perspective. Others manage to delay the introduction of certain kinds of junk. Usually it depends on the child- it's obviously easiest with a first born and many kids are far too canny for the parent to get away with it. But if you can get away with it during the 3s and 4s, why is it considered ok for women to make you feel small and somehow "wrong"?

I agree that there is no point introducing them to something if you don't have to, and this is much, much easier with a first born, but equally there is no need to fuss about a cup of lemonade once in a while-chances are they won't like it anyway.

Lingle, the OP asked if people thought she was overreacting. Some people do, some people don't. That's life. I think she is overreacting, but certainly don't want to make her feel "small" - I was answering her question. If it really bothers her (and she's perfectly entitled not to want her child to have lemonade), then my suggestion would be to ask nursery not to give her child it. If you ask for peoples opinions, then you have to realise not everyone will agree!

YES YOU ARE OVER REACTING

Lingle - I DO think the OP needs to chill out. She asked, I answered! There are more important things to worry about IMO.

FWIW my DS (2) has never had a fizzy drink, and my DD (nearly 5) has had fizzy drinks a handful of times at parties/restaurants. I just see no point making a thing out of it. If they are not in a situation when it is offered, then they don't have it, but I think it is OTT to 'police' them at childrens parties.

And as for DCs keep asking for things once they've tried them, it is for us as parents to say yes or no as we see appropriate. My DD had only weetabix for breakfast till she was about 4. Now she has frosties on a sunday for a treat. If she asks for it every day, then its tough. No big deal.

I would love it if all schools had a culture of not allowing sweets & fizzy to be handed out for birthdays, or taken on trips, and not having them in school or nursery, either, not even for parties & discos. Most kids get way too much of that stuff away from school/nursery, anyway.
But what I want is not going to happen, and I'm not going to get stressed about it, either.

Good Lord I must be a terrible mother. Since before she was 2, I have given my 4 yr old daughter, HEAVEN FORFEND!, a cup of TEA (weak, milky, no sugar; basically undrinkable for an adult) AND often a small biscuit EVERY morning before her proper breakfast (of marsmallows, mars bars and yum yums)

My mum gave me tea when I was tiny (with sugar) and I still remember how much I loved it.

no one is suggesting anyone is a bad mother for feeding their own child what they want to.