playground rudeness

[bellamom]

So I tried, smiled, chatted, schmoozed,went on a couple of mumsy playdates.
Now I am being blanked by them all!!!
AAAAAGH
It really is like being back in school.
Why are they so rude?
I shall return to aloofness forthwith!

As i say to all my friends, you do not need to be friends with these mothers, be polite and civil to the mothers of your childrens friends, the others can take a jump!!

Yes, but its hard when you do drop off and pick up every day!
I have tried really hard to be friendly, but I am obviously saying the wrong things...My aloofness shall be my friend from now on!

Go in at the last minute both for drop-off and pick-up. Be comfortable standing alone. Join the PTA so that you know parents from other yeargroups. It just takes a while to connect with people.

What Sylvania says. Also, be polite and civil. Don't lower yourself to their level. You don't have to be overly friendly, (especially if they're not), but try not to be rude, (even if they are!) IYSWIM!!!

Good luck.

I say bonjour to anyone I vaguely recognises, sweep in, collect and sweep out again. If there is one of dd's friends parents there I might say ca va? or comment on the weather. Dd's friends parents are not MY friends. Well some of them are, but I don't see this as an automatic thing.

Surely it will be something someone has said your child might have said or done or thought that will have caused this. Well that is always the case in our school the mums are far more childish and hold grudges unlike the kids.

Yes this does my head in- sometimes you can have a conversation with someone- then a week later they don't speak again. I do try and remember I have my own set of friends but it is hard sometimes!