DH ranting again- can any primary teachers please give me a quick run down of the hours they do?

[Caz10]

I know I am not the only one in my school who suffers this, so can't be the only one on here!

DH and I having our regular quarterly argument where he criticises me for doing too much work, bringing too much home etc etc.

I work 0.8 over 4 full days, arrive late (IMO) at approx 8.45 every day (suits me to see dd etc), work through lunch apart from 20 mins, leave any time after 4.30, 5.30 about the latest, and finish off work 9-11pm after dd in bed. Often do this 9-11 at weekends too.

Compared to many colleagues who don't have children these are pretty slim hours- I do the bare minimum and have let standards drop considerably since going back after mat leave. But dh cant see this and seems to think it's my choice to do these hours!

How does that compare to what you do?!

Why is your DH ranting? Is it because he's concerned about you and your workload, or because he wants you to iron his shirts concentrate on 'home stuff' instead?

I get into work at 8am and leave somewhere between 4.15 and 4.30, so I can give my toddler his tea at 5. I often work through about half of my lunch hour and will also do on average an hour or so each evening. I work about 4 hours over the weekend. Ends and beginnings of term are busier as I have planning and assessments to sort out.

In the holidays I probably do the same at evenings/weekends, on average. I will rarely work in the daytime. I will go in for a day or two over the summer to sort the classroom but not any other time.

Clam has asked the question I was thinking of. Why is your DH ranting? I have a job which results in frequent evening work and my DH has learnt over the years that any complaints and guilt tripping have a direct impact on the bottom line as well as job security. Perhaps it's easier in a career where volume of work done has a direct impact on earnings and job security but I'm shocked that your DH thinks he has a right to put this sort of pressure on you.

I remember years ago, screaming to my DH that he should have married a checkout operator (that sounds bad, but you know what I mean!) and over time he has learnt to take both our careers more seriously and that most jobs that pay any sort of decent wage simply cannot be completed in the set hours.

Ha funny you should say that, I was shouting at dh that he'd be happier if I was stacking shelves!

It is a variety of things really, he is cOncerned about me at the mo as I am pg and he feels I am doing too much. Other times he says he is just fed up when he is relaxing after dd in bed and can't even watch a film with me without me marking jotters at the same time. He is pretty good at housework etc, does more than me tbh!

He says it impacts on family life, but I think I do my best to minimise any impact. Tbh though I prioritise not letting it affect dd more than dh.