IEP for year 1 age 5 boy

[wahidahamid]

Hi I have a 5 year old one of the youngest in his class he will be 6 in June.
He was put on a IEP just before easter and i was devastated there was no warning that he was going to go on it and his targets where writing simple sentences using finger spaces. Numeracy was to know simple add an subtractions.
I believe he was put on this because we went on holiday and he missed a big massive chunk of his learning which probably at the time was adding and subtracting and senence writing.
I have since been to tutors and he is now being tutored at home for 45 min week as when he did the assessment I could see where his grey areas were.
I have saw a goo improvement but when I asked the teacher she said he made little improvement. He is having extra literacy lessons in the morning for about 30 mins doing letters and sounds.
I have a meeting with the teacher as Im a bit confused as to why he is put on a IEP without notifying me.
Had anyone else had this sort of issue and saw results?
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You sound exactly like me 6 months ago, wahidahamid! Were you a high achiever at school by any chance? I was! Took me yonks to calm down about DS. Good luck with it all.

He definitely hasn't got ADHD even I know that much. Don't worry that tutor got a piece of my mind and was very apologetic he made the assumption with out asking ds back ground, his home life, school life. He is a really good boy with NO behavior problems just being the usual 'boy' . I have been reading a book called 'The way of boy raising healthy boys in a challenging and complex world' and it is fantastic about how boys are of mis judged or mis diagnosed and these young boys grow up to become fine young men!! X

Hahhahah wouldn't say high achiever, I just want the best for my ds so probably am a pushy mum as I had a gifted talent but was never pushed so ds has one but it's being creative ha! But I'm pushing him in other areas gosh hope he doesn't hate me when he gets older ha. I'm sure he will understand.

ADHD doesn't automatically equate to behavioural problems but I would be unhappy that someone would suggest a label on such a short acquaintance.

He doesn't have anything mentioned about ADHD and my friend who is a GP knows my son since birth and clearly said he is far from having ADHD. Like I said before boys are often mis understood and mis diagnosed....n some tutors:professionals need to research properly before handing out labels to innocent children.

I'm the mother of a ADHD child and a SENCO so I know about "labels".
However I think the whole "boy" thing is very outdated and education is much more boy friendly now.

I agree mrz. My son's dyslexia was labelled "just boy stuff" by his useless Y1 teacher but thankfully he has a more enlightened teacher (who is a mum of boys!) this year. The Y1 teacher is veeeery old school.
(I'm not being anti-teacher btw; my DH is one!)

I still don't think my son doesnt have any learning difficulties he is similar to the way I learnt but probably a bit advanced I'd say and nothing clicked with me till juniours and I sailed through and got into grammar schools. So with my ds it's a matter of taking a step back and let him develop.
Now I know what IEP are about he should excel through school. Now coming to think of it I should have had one haha!

"So with my ds it's a matter of taking a step back and let him develop. "

Then have the courage of your convictions and drop the tutoring.

FWIW,

When our primary put DS1 on an IEP (he's on 3 different ones!), I was very happy, as I thought he was significantly behind, and it meant we were going to do something about it.

i think you are a bit too anxious about it, it's good news really. They come "off" the IEP when they catch up (DS only on 2 now).

I never thought of it as a stigma, only as extra help!

Hey guess what
I spoke to the teacher and came put with a massive smile on my face as I went in with the right attitude.
Positive things he is good at reading, spelling shapes, measurement, and creative work. What he needs help with is sentence writing being able to think of a sentence and write it down without missing words out and she said most of the children do this and need reminding. Also subtracting more than adding just doing simple subtractions at home or when we are out. So these where the main focus and now I know how to help him we hope to see results. His teacher is lovely so happy days x

and you don't need a tutor good news!

I once wote an iep for a child with speech difficulties, he was a distant relative, and it came back through the family that "he was thick" Families can be strange. don't panic, the extra help is a positive thing, though it can be a bit of a shock to find out that they need it and it is easy to feel that you have failed as a parent. Glad to hear that it all worked out ok.

It was suggested to me that my son had ADHD by a teacher, when it transpired he was severely dyslexic and not concentrating in class because he was having a permanent panic attack at the confusion of it all! Since it was recognised, no one else has suggested something so preposterous about him. Remain calm, trust your instincts, and look for people who are willing to help!

I spend half my time trying to convince parents their child hasn't got ADHD since they discovered they can claim a benefit