How much bullying/teasing do you have to accept will happen to your child?

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I have posted before about physical attacks and derogatory comments about me being made on and to my child. I have been into school to speak to the deputy about it. Things had been put in place to tackle it. He said they can't stop it 100%. Last week a child pulled my child by his tie again and then the next day another child said awful comments about me, called my son and me an f-ing bleep. I am just sick of it. Yesterday the same child made comments again about my child to him about his appearance. Whatever they are saying to this child is clearly not working as he has carried on.

The school have a duty of care to keep your child safe at school. Ask for their anti-bullying policy. The deputy Head sounds like an idiot.

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Agree with cornsilk that Deputy sounds like an idiot.
Talk to HT, and if no joy there, talk to Chair of Governors.

I believe most schools operate zero tolerance. (at least on paper)
So do I.
If the school can't stop it (the head sounds useless btw) then call the police. I'd have no hesitation.
I do think there is a difference between teasing and bullying though. Neither are pleasant. But the former is infinitely easier to deal with than the latter.

That's bully, not teasing. You don't have to accept it at all.

Teasing is unpleasant and should be acted upon but certainly with ds1 in reception I do accept that a few unkind things will be said to him (and I'm sure he has been unkind to others). The school have an active line in discouraging it though.

bullying, obviously

Parents have removed their kids from our school because of bullying. They have an anti-bullying policy which we have read and in our view, are failing. The minute my child did anything I was called in. The kids hurting my child haven't had their parents brought in. Another mum told me the deputy said "that's girls for you" when she complained about bullying. My DH gets stroppy with me when I want to take them out as he says what do we do then?

on phone to school now

what do i say??

he is not there

will ring me back later

the kid is having problems at home apparently

I would not accept this at all, its bullying in my opinion, make sure you keep on at the school about it and keep a log of every incident.

I wouldn't accept it either
Awful as it is for the child having problems at home, allowing that kind of behaviour to go unchecked is not on - and won't help the child carrying it out, either. They need an action plan, surely?

They say they have put things in place. They then speak to the child. Still it goes on. I feel a failure that I can not protect my child.

Spoke to him, can't stop all the bullying. Finally the parents will be told today .

They must stop the bullying. What an idiot.

send him a letter asking to confirm his claim that the school can't stop the bullying and then send that on to the LEA

My husband wrote a letter to the Head which didn't answer any of his questions and just said not to talk to the Deputy head in the playground.

DH will be home in 15 minutes so I will get him to write it.

Thank you for your ideas and support.

There is a big difference between bullying and teasing. The latter just happens and is tolerated within reason. The former is what you are describing (any physical acts count in my book) and the school have a legal obligation to prevent. Sadly it is hard as they don't always know the facts and neither does the child sometimes. This happened with a nephew of mine in just his first year at school. But I wish you well resolving this.

Words were had. Someone might have got stroppy. I am fed up. We are going to talk to our son tomorrow.

Is this primary or secondary? How old is your son?

He is 10, primary school.