Anyone else have a Year 6 child now getting stroppy and arrogant - anticipating senior school perhaps??

[Cornflakemum]

DS1 (11) has got his place at the local Grammar, and we were reallt pleased etc, however in the last few weeks he suddenly seems to have transformed into an arrogant little sh*t! (sorry...)

• Is constantly arguing with DH/me/DS2
• Is winding up DS2 and then trying to lie/cover up
• Is stroppy about homework/ after school activities
• getting cocky with his friends

Is this par for the course in the run up to leaving junior school?

I don't like it, and DH says we need to 'nip it in the bud'

Do we need to sit him down and have a chat about it all? Trying to think about the causes, I wonder if it's actually a nervous reaction to the anticipation of change i.e. end of term/ new school/ new friends etc?

Any ideas?

Now the school places have been allocated, year 6s start to look towards their next school and can be impatient to move onwards and upwards.

He may feel he's outgrown primary school and that he's stuck in limbo.

He could well be nervous.

If his school is anything like ours, he's probably bored stiff with SATs preparation.

He may be hormonal.

He may be feeling mighty pleased with himself. We have a very limited no. of grammar places here, and those offered places can get a bit above themselves for a while (no axe to grind, I have a DD at grammar school). I'd seriously consider that possibility, and have a chat with him - post 11+ cockiness can play havoc with year 6 relationships.

Year 6 is a funny time though.

i think its anticipation and thinking im all grown up now and begining of teen angst all rolled into one . id do as you say sit him down let him know what is and isnt acceptable/expected from him , he may well be hiding his fears with anger and cockynessand worried about losing/making new friends, did he like it when he (if hes done it yet) went there for the day?, mine didnt get like that then although we did get tears at missing her old school and friends at first once dd was there but DS (15) took it all in his stride and settled right away , im sure once hes there he will settle and hopefully make good friends and all will be well good luck with the teen rollercoaster

He's very happy about going - it was his first choice of school, so not a problem there.

It certainly feels like the onset of puberty/teen angst/ grumpiness etc - boohoo , where has my lovely little boy gone...

My friend of 3 boys said to me a few years back that their last year in primary school can be a bit annoying. Get a bit cocky type of behaviour. No experience myself though!

Age, stage, hormones and feeling pleased with himself - DS did all the things on your list all the time in yr6/7, but now he's year 8, he has grown at least six inches, dropped an octave, realises (most of the time) that he is not the biggest and cleverest person around, and is much nicer to have around. Most of the time.

I don't know if there is anything you can actually do about it, apart from try to put him in his place/introduce consequences when he is being seriously unpleasant - I basically just rode it out, and did my best not to take both DCs on any car journeys together, as that was when he was at his absolute worst.

he will be back lol you get the odd glimpse now and again but ive been told by friends he will return by around 18/20 if your lucky ive been lucky my DS and DD argue with each other and just ignore DH and myself mostly (is that lucky?) and are lazy more than anything drives DH mad DS does everything at one spead , dont want to upset the mexicans lol but its slow or slower like hes havin a siesta but with eyes open

My Year 6 DS (10) is the same. He needs to be with other boys all the time and is not getting on with DD at all. Trying to arrange for him to play with his friends as much as possible and spending more time with my Dad at a caravan where he can climb trees and get out more with the other lads.

I have a year 6 dd and her attitude can be crap too, mostly always directed at myself, dh or ds.

I can't wait for her to start senior school - she is top of the school at the moment and getting far to big for her boots. I'm looking forward to her sliding right back down to the bottom of the pecking order to be honest. I think it will do her arrogant attitude the world of good!

LOL at Sweetheart's " I'm looking forward to her sliding right back down to the bottom of the pecking order to be honest"....

But I can't stand this for the next 6 months!

Try being a yr 6 teacher, I have 11 of them ( and 18 yr 5's who are yr 6's in the making!)
I would agree, yr 6 and especially this time of the year is tricky. They know which school they are going to be moving onto and can't wait but are scared to death at the same time ( especially mine who are moving on from a very small rural school where they know everyone to grammar and secondary schools where they will definitely be small fish in a big pond!) SATs are looming and however much we try some anxiety is creaping in, hormones are kicking in ( the smell of deodorant is currently competing with BO in my class and generally everybody has had enough!

Year 6 boys are a pain in the arse who think they know everything and are the cock of the school, whilst the girls seem to chill a little (in preparation for being evil in Year 7).

I think this is just about the right time of year for Y6 "attitude" to kick in. I always find it fascinating that at the beginning of Y6 you think "my baby is far too small to be going to secondary", but by half way through the year you wish they could start immediately.

I would sit down and have a word personally, no matter how understandable his behaviour is it is not acceptable for any one member of the family to make life unpleasant for everyone else. My favourite mantra is always "with rights come responsibilities". Getting into the habit of open communication with an 11/12 year old makes it easier to continue to communicate as they get older.

My Yr 6 is going through puberty..hair growing in all the right places! He has been stroppy for over a year, slightly aggressive too, BUT he seems to have gotten a hold on it since the hair started to sprout. Puberty is a really difficult time..one word...HORMONES!!! I have 4 dc's and, trust me, this stage is really not nice at times..BUT you do see little glimpses of what life will be when the hormones settle. The key (which I have yet to find) is the balance between stopping the bad behaviour without stifling the new adult trying to break out!

Just trying to get my DS to start wearing deodorant is a nause at the moment. I bought him some and keep up with gentle hints such as Phew that shirt needs changing. He did have a shower the other day without asking though. Presume he is going through puberty as the bathroom door is most definitely locked and I or DD are not allowed in.

I'm quite blatant with my boys. I will say "you stink, go and shower please and put deodorant on. Mind you, our house stinks of Lynx in the morning from 3 lads spraying. Blerk!