Howtodealwithbulliesforgood

[MUMoo7]

My 11year old ds is constantly getting harrassed and sworn at (v.bad language) by two boys in his class who do not even fear the head teacher. He is very sensitive, very bright and this is probably why they are picking on him. He is getting quite desperate now with the situation, since talking to the teacher and punishing these boys has only made the situation worse for him. His friends offer to help but these guys fear nothing. DH has advised him to resort to physical action (I am horrified about this) and he is seriously considering this (he does Martial Arts) but I honestly doubt that he would be able to start a fight. Even so, you never know. Should I try and talk to the teacher again? They have now even started to insult me ("your mum is a b), since it has leaked out that I talked to the teacher about it.

Keep pestering the school until the situation improves. Ask for a copy of their bullying policy and ask what steps they are going to take to protect your child and his right to be educated. If they are further victimising him because of a complaint then serious action needs to be taken.

Thank you. I am worried as well to make a nuissance of myself and be labelled a "difficult parent" and this might backfire on my DS. My DD is going to start at that school next year and it is in general a supposedly good state school in a nice middle-class area.
On the other hand, this cannot be tolerated and I will go back to the school again to sort this out. I am astonished that the teacher even disclosed that I complained. I had even asked for this to be kept confidential.

Hi -as well as going back to the school - and I think I would be going to the head at this point
my nephew has had quite a few problems with bullying -just one boy - and he found some aniti bullying websites very useful - he practised things to say to the bully and how to behave. -it makes him feel he is doing something - and it has cut down the harresment.
the school have been good though - the boy concerned is on a final warning - and it hasn't made it worse

Thank you - we had another chat with the teacher and the situation has become a bit better now, he has now learnt to always be in a group of friends to avoid being targeted and he has also learnt to ignore things like swearing. It's just a few more weeks now and thankfully the bully is not going on the big school trip!