punishment at pimary school

[natallsto]

dear mums i am really strugling to understand my 6 year old daughter's head teacher who punished my daughter on friday over anonimous claims that she was being agressive/pusshing her best friend on the playground. The headteacher phoned me at work to tell me that my daughter was being punished and because somebody reported anonimously that they have seen my daughter pushing another child(this being her best friend) and the head teached questioned my daughter and she admitted!!!!. First of all my daughter in never been agressive, she could not harm a fly, she had never had any problems at school, pre school or nursery. This is the first accident I have heard of and she was straight away punished to do not go out in playtime and do not sit down or bend her knees. Please help

Blimey - your OP and your last post sound like 2 different people!

That is strange OP, your spelling, punctuation, paragraphing and fluency have all altered from first to last post.
I'd ask for a meeting to discuss what happened, a copy of their discipline policy and a copy of any incident report.

Did the head tell it was an anonymous person who works across the street? When we discuss an issue like this we will not name the other person. It might have been a parent helper, MDSA, TA, etc. and it is "anonymous" because they don't want you address the issue out of school with the adult concerned as this can cause other problems.

My ds admitted to stuff he didn't do in Year one - because he was scared and he thought it was the answer he was supposed to give - he had no idea what it all meant....I knew by his confusion at home that there was no way that he had committed the crime that he was accused of and admitted to...still the school never believe you do they - they always think you are being a bit precious and they know best - they are the professionals after all.

yes thats exactly what I feel, they accused my daughter and decided she is guilty and punished her without anyone standing up for her and her position

It's not that uncommon for children to admit to something they didnt do when questionned. Ds was asked once if a child had pushed him by accident or on purpose. Ds didnt understand the terms used so said it was on purpose then was shocked the child got into trouble. He was much younger though in nursery.

natallsto who did you want there "standing up for her" ? surely you don't expect the school to send for you every time there is an incident to be dealt with? Your daughter pushed her friend (ok she says it was in play) but she was seen, admitted she had done it (because she had) and the school dealt with it.

Maybe the other child was too scared to say otherwise.

i think you will have to let this one go bar asking about the kneee bending thing which seems unreasonable unless as other posters have said it was ment as do not sit just stand and when shes tried to sit they have said no bending ect ect but id deffinately keep an eye on the situation for next time, btw maybe the child did complain or the parent and are being two faces goodness knows a lot of the mums certainly are that but as you say they rang to make a play date so i wouldnt worry too much about that either, my DC's have all been pushed shoved bullied even and nothings ever been done to the bullies just my chiild kept in for their"safety" but this to the other children and to my dc appears the inocent get punished whilst the guilty go free hardly fair at all is it, the anon" person who witnessed it , if it was a dinnerlady or teacher perhaps they are saying was witnessed by someone else as they are not allowed to tell you their sourse for obvious reasons could have been a member of staff or parent helper who doesnt want to be named because they know you, lastly i know yr dd is only 6 and you have never had a problem before but ALL children can be naughty sometimes and its not unbelievable that she admited it not becuse she was scared under interogation but admited it becuse she knows she did do it and it was wrong,,,having said that seems a bit OTT to me too

Yes, that's still bugging me, too - it's so odd when you read the OP and the post of 20:23:08, the contrast couldn't be more stark.

it's perfectly normal for staff not to disclose the names of the other children involved in an incident, isn't it?

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