My daugters bad behaviour,dislexia? and moving achool.

[womblingfree1970]

I have a 7 year daughter who since the first day of school has hated it.She is one of the youngest in her year(if born a month later, she'd be in the year below).she is also probably(well almost guaranteed) dislexic.So is below average academically. and really struggles.

This( i believe) has had a knock on effect with her behaviour.As gradually through the school years her behaviour has got worse.She is now acting out at home as well.I have asked for behaviour support team to come into school.So this is in progress.Also she's under special needs and may be seeing education psychologist but school seems to be reluctant to do this for dyslexia.Seems to be a common problem in schools.But I'm pushing for this.

But I am wondering(and have heard) that sometimes moving a child to another school can improve things.I'm wondering if anyone else has had any experience with this.Good or bad.

The school she is at at the moment is quite academic and high acheiving and I'm wondering if it might be better to send her to a less academic school where she will feel she is achieving alongside her peers.As at the moment I fell her self esteem is being knocked.I always talk about the things she's good at to help this but she also has an older sister who is a high achiever.

On the other side I'm worried that I could change school and find its worse.Also I find in the schools she's in now because she's labelled as 'naughty, she sometimes gets the blame for things that aren't her fault or doing.That another childs word is taken over hers.This has been witnessed by the behaviour support team and addressed with her teacher.I have also raised this with teacher.

Anyway any advice

I think you will be better able to make choices about what type of schooling and support would be best for your DD when you have an Ed Psych assessment. Has an appointment been made? The waiting lists in some places can be horrendous - how long before she can be seen?

I moved my DD who is having severe difficulties learning to read and write to a new school and it has helped.

Though the main thing it helped with was my relationship with school, because my relationship with the previous school had totally broken down.

So if you don't think the school are doing everything they can for your DD, and your relationship with them is very strained, then moving can def help.

I would look round some other local schools, and be totally honest about why you're moving. Say that she has both behavioural problems and difficulties with reading and writing, and see what they say.

A school that is right for you will be full of all the things they do to help children with similar problems.....

A school that is worse will try to dissuade you from moving there

meditrina

They have only just asked for referral to Ed psych after several months of me asking and having the backing of the behaviour support team who have been seeing my daughter since november.As for how long it will take thats one thing I didn't ask but will find out.

Yes my thinking is get assessment done and let the behaviour support team do their bit before I consider moving her.

But thought I'd asked now so that I can consider all the options.I've heard from other parents at DD school that support for special needs and behaviour etc can be slow and sometimes absolutely useless.