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Should we stay or should we go???

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ohanotherone · 17/02/2011 22:23

My Ds, aged 5 likes his school. BUT It is very small, he doesn't play with anyone at lunchtimes as the other boy his age plays with his older brother. The headteacher is really unapproachable. He told me tonight that she had said to him that "no one likes him". He thinks the whole school doesn't like him. He had glue ear when he first went to school and I glean from snippets of talk that he was labelled as naughty. The other parents don't really speak to me as they have all lived locally for years and although in all other walks of life both DS and myself have friends we seem to be stigmatised here. I thought I was being paranoid as this has never happened before but another person has noticed this and asked them why and apparently there is no reason apart from the fact that they don't know me. The school may close soon anyway. Would you wait until March until I know for sure if it is closing or move him now? This is his third term, things don't seem to be getting better I just want him go somewhere normal really.

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eons26 · 17/02/2011 22:28

Go - definitely. It sounds like something from a horror film. He could be having fun somewhere else.

IndigoBell · 18/02/2011 02:58

Move.

ElinElin · 18/02/2011 08:57

Move if possible. Did the Headteacher actually tell your son that 'no one likes him?' Or did I misunderstand that? That is just ridiculous. Is the HT a complete loon with no social skills?

geraldinetheluckygoat · 18/02/2011 09:00

definitely move him. He's unhappy and it sounds as though the school are willing to help him with that, best option is to move and make a fresh start.

ohanotherone · 18/02/2011 19:09

Thanks, it gets worse, today he pooed himself and the HT left him on the toilet for probably 20mins and called my childminder to come and clean him up, she found him there.

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EmEyeHi · 18/02/2011 19:53

Move - the sooner you do, the sooner you get your regular sleep patterns back. HT sounds like she's in the wrong job. How on earth do these people get to be HTs?

Greeninkmama · 18/02/2011 20:59

Oh yes, definitely go. There doesn't seem to be any advantage in staying.

MigratingCoconuts · 18/02/2011 21:23

Go! Pleaase, find a better place asap. Schools do not have to be like this and your son deserves much better.

IloveJudgeJudy · 18/02/2011 21:38

Yes, definitely move. From what you have written the school sounds unfriendly. Your DS will only be young once. If he is at a bigger school there's a much bigger pool of friends to call on.

AdelaofBlois · 19/02/2011 21:26

Blimey. Do they burn large Wicker Men there?

YesPleaseDrChristian · 19/02/2011 21:43

Go go go go go! Sounds dreadful. What an awful start to school. Put it behind you and move away and on.

admission · 20/02/2011 19:17

Go now, if for no other reason than you will get a head start on others who may have to find another school if indeed the school does close.
And that is before we start talking about how poorly your son has been treated!
Don't feel any sorrow or remorse about making the decision, just do it.

ohanotherone · 01/03/2011 17:05

I had kept him off school and advised the LEA why I am doing so and they didn't advise me not to, actually the opposite (I wonder if this is not the first instance and they are totally aware of other instances) but despite the lovely headmistress at my escape to school saying it's fine for him to go there immediately, some LEA lady has to process the form. I sent it last tuesday, she got it on thursday, I rang her today and she hasn't even e-mailed the school (that's all she has to do, the head went in on saturday morning to check aswell). I'm feeling a bit down about it all! Sad

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Dozer · 01/03/2011 20:05

Too right, move him and complain!

spanieleyes · 01/03/2011 20:33

We had a child arrive at our school this morning, forms will catch up eventually!

lemonmousse · 01/03/2011 20:47

I work in a Primary School - we have taken children from other schools 'at the drop of a hat' (e.g. a parent came to see our head as her child was unhappy at the school she was at - the child started at our school the next day).
i can't understand why they are making you wait Confused

ohanotherone · 03/03/2011 17:24

Is going in tomorrow, with a uniform, am so relieved. Lovely support from people at new school! Thanks to everyone here aswellXXXXX

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lemonmousse · 03/03/2011 20:09

Ah - that's great! Pleased for you X

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