immature?

[griffalo2]

it was parents evening last night.ds(5)s teacher says hes immature,rather choose to play with sand and water than sit down and do writing or colouring.
Are not all 5 year old boys in reception like that?
The way i see it,unless he is sat down and encouraged to do the work he aint gonna do it.soo frustrated

Of course he'd rather play than sit down and do work! It's their job to focus him and help him learn. He is still learning through play.

Did you not say anything back?

Unless she said she was actually concerned about it I wouldn't be. DS is a summer born & he seemed to spend the entire reception year outside playing in mud with the TA. He couldn't read when he started school. In yr2 now & definitely in middle of class for reading & writing and no extra help req.

Most boys IME are like that. The progress comes in spurts.

Oh FFS!

I would definitely ask them what they are doing to engage him then.

Or actually, in Reception, I might be tempted just to smile and nod and be glad that my DS was sensible enough to be making friends and taking all the great opportunities for learning through play the early years curriculum should be offering him !

I thought the point of learning through play was that (for example) if you had a boy that wanted to play in the sand rather than sit down and write (which I agree is probably most 5 year old boys) - you encourage him to write/draw in the sand, build structures, pick up small objects he has buried etc ... rather than insisting he sits down!!

I have a 4 year old like that. His birthday is in August so he is one of the youngest.

I'm surprised that picking sand over water constitutes immature behaviour. If my child was considered immature I'd assume that it was to do with independence or behaviour (listening to the teacher etc). Does the teacher encourage him to read or write during free play?

Reception classes are usually set up with activities on different tables and children picking what they fancy. Unless he is not trying to write or read when teh teacher was asking I wouldn't worry at all.

All children are different and I wouldn't worry about it. A teacher called my friend's son "serious" in reception, so she worried that he was anti-social and had no friends.

In reception they all seem to muddle along learning in their own ways (either through play or by sitting down and learning in a more formal way). My son is now in year one, and it is definitely a far more structured approach to learning. As long as he is enjoying school and learning and the teachers are not worried about him, I would be happy that he is learning in his own way.

hehehe ds' teacher told me "she was disapointed at ds's lack of commitment to his school work" he was 4 at the time and had been i school for about 4 months!

Also repeatedly described as "immature".

Ds is a July baby so one of the youngest in his class!

FFS, please please dont be upset by that comment, it is rediculous to the highest order!
There is nothing wrong with your little chappy, he is normal! But then you already know that dont you

i just didnt know wat to say to her without falling out with her.
He hasnt done any writing since january,apart from wat hes been doing at home with me,and she says hes strugging forming the letters properly.
I went to her a few weeks back and said hes not interested in lookin at the sound worksheets shes been sendin home.her reply was im not bothered put them in the bin.
Her whole attitude stinks.

If he's struggling with his letters, pick up some phonics books (they had them in the poundshop the other day!) and do the funny actions with him to help his learning. A,a,a,a ants on your arm stuff with the actions. Then it'll make it more interesting when he does the actual letters and sheets etc.

he knows majority of sounds its just puttin them on paper correctly.