Should I break friendship with "show offy" friend?

[dontdillydally]

Im getting to the point where Im going to fall out or distance myself from a certain friend/mum in playground.

It's constantly DS is good at this, DS is over achieving at that, DS's report was XXXX they are such a competative family and push their 3 DC constantly. Always the first to bring something into school and sulk when it doesnt get shown.

It's draining me and making me feel inferior, Im also starting to compare my DS which is wrong.

Should I break ties?

Just drift, don't do anything particular to break ties.

On comparing your DS: do you want to swap your DS for their DS? No. So there is no competition!

I have a friend like this too. The thing is, on her own she's a good friend, when she's not boasting about her kids.

When she boasts I started saying things like' You must be so proud' or 'how lovely to have such a clever son' etc etc. These comments cut the conversation dead and she isn't as show offy as she used to be, until she gets warmed to her theme!

I guess you need to think if her friendship is valuable to you, and if not I'd break ties gradually.

My mum always said that the people who feel most insecure are the ones who show off to make them feel better about themselves, but if she's getting you down too much, I'd be tempted to ditch!

There is someone like this at my dc's school. I was good friends with her but I'm drifting. Its too stressy for my liking.

Life is too short.

Stick to real friends.

If she was a real friend you would just tell her how she's behaving. The fact that you haven't means she's not a real friend.

Sometimes people dont realise how annoying this is, and its probably time for you to say something like, it isnt important to me that your child is the best at everything and that I am happy with what my own children can do and dont feel the need to boast.

This will upset her, but it will make or break the choice of whether you stay friends or not

Drift! Listening to someone droning on about what book level their child is, which time table they are learning....it goes on and they seem to drop it in at every available opportunity - it is bloody boring and very crass. I find myself cringing as I try to escape.

I love it when someone is so subtle about their child's achievements - you almost find out by mistake that they are near genius level - but it happens so rarely.

Drift. But quickly! I have a really low tolerance level for this kind of thing, mainly because I struggle to focus on dd without being sucked into comparisons so I find it destructive. Luckily there's no one like this at school so a bit easier to avoid.

I NEED to drift as you put it....couldnt believe this morning she asked how many valentine cards my DS received!!!! As all her children received 1 each!!!

Had a friend like that. I think she was very insecure and felt she had to outdo everyone in the playground. She had to find out the marks every child had scored in the tests and make sure her child came on top.If any of the other children said anything mean to her daughter she would be in the Head's office like a shot and would not hear of anything her daughter could do wrong. In the end she alienated most people.
This kind of people seldom see what they are doing wrong so my advise is drift, I did and it worked!!

lol she probably posted them herself, shes like this as she's obviously insecure and needs others to say how great a job of mothering shes doing , you should have said oh not as many as usual ony 3 lolpeople like this are sad we should feel for them as shes nothing better to do than to make herself feel supirior by making others feel inferiornext time make yr excuses and smil and wave n walk over to anyone else

i cant find my reading glasses sorry for terribletypos lol

So the moral of the story is, if you are one of these parents taht constantly tell everyone else how brilliant your kids are, they dont appreciate it.
Everyone is be proud of their kids achievements, but keep it to themselves. All kids are good at something

Just say that's great, brilliant, don't ask, nod, wait to see if you get asked about your dcs. Keep aloof, it will annoy her intensely, when you don't compare. She is looking for approval because she is insecure. If you can talk about things beyond school and dcs, then you have a friend.