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Playdates/outings/driving! Without me!

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bubbles1112 · 31/01/2011 19:27

How do people feel about this? I've never liked the idea of other people driving my dd or her being on outings without me (even hate school trips). Lots of people don't have a problem with this so I want to know if I'm alone. If other people do feel the same what do you say when youre faced with this situation?

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ramonaquimby · 31/01/2011 19:28

no problem at all

Panzee · 31/01/2011 19:28

Can I ask what your concerns are? I'm asking from a teacher's point of view. Maybe I can reassure you?

ilythia · 31/01/2011 19:30

I only didn't like ti as I wanted to go with her rather than go to work, that was until I did go with her on the school trip to the local petting zoo/farm thing.

Never again.

I have also gone on school trips with secondary school children, slightly more fun (only as there is no toilet supervision and no need to feed them) but still a mighty PITA.

scurryfunge · 31/01/2011 19:30

It seems a bit controlling.

If you have no reason to be worried about their safety then it is probably an irrational thing.

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bubbles1112 · 31/01/2011 19:31

I just worry about something happening to her. It's the loss of control and the feeling that nobody has my dd's safety/wellbeing in their mind as much as I have. It's quite a horribl feeling really and I can see parents of dd's friends may be a bit offended!

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Panzee · 31/01/2011 19:32

Can you go on the odd trip to see how it all works?

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bubbles1112 · 31/01/2011 19:34

I have offered Panzee but I haven't been needed! I accept that trips will happen and just try not to think about them too much!

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Whitenapteen · 31/01/2011 19:46

As a parent who has accompanied infant children on day trips not involving my own DC, I would say that, if anything, I have a much greater sense of my duty of care to those children than when taking my own DC out.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 01/02/2011 07:22

I've already answered your other posting about this.
I trust DDs school implicitly, the coaches they use all have seat belts on.
You need to relax about the whole thing.

cory · 01/02/2011 08:07

It is fairly common to feel the loss of control as your child grows older and moves out of your hands. Nothing to be ashamed of, lots of parents do. But it does not follow from this that you should say anything or do anything. Sometimes the best parenting is to do nothing.

I would also make a point of taking dd's friends out yourself or inviting them to playdates. Take pride in the fact that other parents are trusting you with their most valuable possession and notice how meticulous you are about making sure their trust is not misplaced- and then tell yourself that the other parents and teachers are probably not that unlike you.

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