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Daughter only talk to adults should i talk to the teacher or not?

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Fernie3 · 16/01/2011 21:50

My daughter is in year 1 s is 6 years old, she started a new school after the summer holidays. At the parents evening the end of last term the teacher told us that she has no friends and only talks to the adults both in the classroom and the playground the teacher seemed a little irritated by this saying it was " wierd". since then she has not seemed unhappy going to school but we have heard various mentions of "not having friends" and she says things like she wishes it was always school holiday.
Last week one of the dinner ladies there ( who has a child in year) told me that my daughter spends every lunchtime talking to her and walking around holding her hand, not playing with other children. She told me that she always tries to get her to play with the other children but she doesn't want to.
I am quite upset about this i don't like to think if me dropping her off to be on her own all day with no one to play with.
I was thinking if approaching the teacher again, I'm not sure what to say really though because as i say she is not outwardly unhappy and the teacher doesn't seem to have much to say about it.

What do you think how can i deal with this?

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activate · 16/01/2011 21:51

ask teacher if there is anyone in particular that she feels might be appropriate to invite back on to yours to play

does she have friends outside shcool? Maybe she doesnt' know how to negotiate friendships with her peers - I thinkn there's a book that is good on this - hang on a second I'll check my files

activate · 16/01/2011 21:57

www.amazon.co.uk/Unwritten-Rules-Friendship-Strategies-Friends/dp/0316917303/ref=pd_sim_b_5

this one is good

www.amazon.co.uk/How-Be-Friend-Friends-Families/dp/0316111538/ref=pd_cp_b_3

might be a bit young but might be worthwhile

teacher should have social skills resources - ask her what she uses in PSHE, ask her if it's possible to have a mentoring scheme

Fernie3 · 17/01/2011 03:33

Thanks! I will talk to her teacher maybe encouranging things a bit more tomorrow. She doesn't really have nany friends outside school but she had lots of friends at her old school . She has three siblings amd she says that they are her best friends, it's hard to get her to look beyond that!

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