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Put downs - Need to approach teacher???

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PoppetUK · 10/01/2011 20:15

Hi all,

I have a DS in reception.

Several weeks ago he was accused of whispering 1 or 2 putdowns to two girls. He denied it but it may have happened. The teacher spoke to him at the time and nothing was said to me. I believe DS might have been in the wrong but was upset about getting into trouble.

Today DS comes home from school and says that a little girl said to him a putdown about the teacher. He replied you are not allowed to say that (that word in our house is a big no no). Apparently the little girl then said to the teacher that my DS has said x about her. He explains it as if she gave a "disappointed" look but never spoke to him about it.

When putting DS to bed he was very sad. He explains it as if he didn't get a chance to say he didn't say it so now thinks the teacher will be upset with him.

I honestly couldn't tell you if he did say it or not. I certainly wouldn't approve if he did and he should apologise.

I'm not sure if the teacher swept it under the carpet because of how she might have felt about it. I don't know.

To make matters worse I am due to start helping in the classroom or other classes in the school. I feel terrible for the teacher. I also don't want to make this worse.

What would you do???

Thanks in advance.

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PixieOnaLeaf · 10/01/2011 20:22

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PoppetUK · 10/01/2011 20:27

A bit fat. There couldn't be a better time to use .

I'll see how he is in the morning. It's always dangerous when my two come out with star of the day in the first week. It can only go down from there. I also posted how sensible my DD has been and now both have been in trouble today.

Hubby is taking the kids to school in the morning

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PixieOnaLeaf · 10/01/2011 20:30

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OffToNarnia · 10/01/2011 20:57

Try not to worry PoppetUK. It might be time for one of those 'least said soonest mended' moments. My 5 year old DS constantly embarrassing me with teachers... glass of sparkling wine in my hand and trying not to think about it!

Sassyfrassy · 10/01/2011 22:38

I'm a teacher and it must be said, a bit fat. Whenever I've had a comment, and working with kids you get comments about everything, I usually just smile and agree and say I quite like eating cookies =) Most likely the teacher chose to ignore the comment and not make a big deal out of it.

blackeyedsusan · 10/01/2011 23:38

they sit on the floor around your feet whilst you are teaching them, looking up at you intently and then utter a profound statement along the lines of.... you've got hairs up your nose... Reception teachers have heard it all before.. Don't worry. reassure your child that she will have forgotten about it in the morning and that he can start the day with a fresh start.

It doesn't sound fair to be blamed for saying not to do something, but it is not really going to help saying something to the teacher, although if it becomes a repeated pattern, with the same child well then you could mention something. teach him not to repeat naughty words, but to say something like that is not kind and I don't want to hear or something.

(i am remembering the agonising 5 year old pain of being accused of something I didn't do and not being able to explain so a bit of sympathy would not go amiss!)

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