How judgey are teachers/schools of parents who don't turn up for school events

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I really do try to be at everything the school arranges, plays, assemblies, fete, sports day etc, but sometimes, especially if we get short notice, I just can't.

I usually beg a relative/friend to go in my place so that DSs have "someone" but always feel guilty about it.

I know some parents have less flexible jobs/employers and can hardly ever get to these events.

Do the school see these parents as uncaring and uninvolved or is that me being paranoid? I know the other mums sometimes see it that way, but I don't care about them

I feel guilty if I can't make these things- but only because of what my daughters think, I don't really care what the school thinks - I don't expect the teachers notice exactly which parents are in the audience for each assembly etc.

I can only speak for my school but we are aware of which parents work and can't make every event - and even those parent who don't work aren't really expected to be at every 'do'.

As a parent I always tried to attend every event but once I started work I had to prioritize. I go to every parents evening and every open afternoon. I go to any performance my children are in and I try to show an interest in other stuff.

If I were honest though, it would be noted in the staff room if you never turned up for anything.

Which is very rare.

How many teachers do you think get to see their children at events if they are during the day?
Evenings most times I do go.

I doubt they judge.
I work in a school so although I can wangle an hour for something 'special', like to watch dd get the Child of Achievement award, I can't do Christmas plays or accompanying on trips.
They know I work. And they work too, so understand.

Am working with a target group of 27 primary children, atm, and only 5 parents showed up to Parent's Evening. That I did judge.

As a teacher, I didn't judge parents who couldn't come to things at all. I myself could never go to things either! The only thing that I did get judgemental about was when parents didn't show for parent teacher conferences. Often it was the parents who really needed to come that didn't!

We're more likely to judge parents who never come to parents' evenings - as previous posters have said, many teacher are themselves parents and can never go to anything on during the day.

People forget that about teachers - blah on about the long holidays - but they forget that teachers have no choice over when to have holidays, and can't take time off the way people in other jobs can.