faileddoctor: "(Sidetracking
Or is it a case of: 'There are the toys. Do something. Or just run around like nutters... as long as the adults can get on with x (cleaning, paperwork, chatting...)? This type of play is CR*P."
Is that not what I'm supposed to do at home
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colditz: "It's fine at home, but not as a substitute for an education."
I know this sounds shocking, but that is a recognised form of education, and those who have tried it for any length of time report that it is quite an effective one. It's called "autonomous education" and it's how my daughters learn. No one could deny that it worked well in my older dd's case. She went to school briefly just before she turned ten and was not "behind" her peers even on the measures which schools find important.
The only exceptions were that she couldn't write very fast by hand (she could type like crazy) and her spelling wasn't up to much (it is now, a year later). People are often impressed with the skills and motivation of children who have learned under their own steam: "He seems to understand xx very well despite never having had any instruction in it." I'd say it is "because of" and not "despite"!
Before the advent of mass education that was the method most children used to learn the skills they would need in their society: they played, they watched, they tried things out, they helped. Adults would answer questions and help children if they had time, but "teaching" wasn't a discrete activity, and - in the early years especially - it wasn't thought necessary to set aside six hours a day for "learning."
People argue that times have changed and children now need different skills, but I don't think the nature of children has changed enough to invalidate this form of education which has always worked so well.