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Dd1 (6) has come home from school covered in bruises...

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Marne · 22/10/2010 19:46

When i picked dd1 up from school i noticed a couple of small red marks on her face, got her home and the marks were more noticable, dd1 mentioned something about being knocked over by another child but couldn't really remember details other than hitting her head and face. As i'm getting her dressed for bed she shows me her elbow which has a large graze, i then help her take her school clothes off and she has a big bruise on her hip (looks painful) and another bruise on her back (on her spine), by now the red marks on her face are turning into bruises and she has a bruise around her eye Sad.

Am i right in thinking that the school/teacher should have checked her over? (when dd1 hurts herself she makes a fuss so i'm sure she must have been crying a lot and moaning), surely the teacher should have said something to me when i picked her up?

Of course now its half term and there is nothing i can do until they go back.

Dd1 has Aspergers and sometimes finds it hard to explain where she is hurting but for this reason you would have thought they would have checked her over.

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Clarabel22 · 22/10/2010 20:29

Hmm, take some photos in case you want to query it after half term.

gabid · 22/10/2010 20:30

Sorry, it must be horrible to see your child being hurt at school where she should be safe - I would have her checked out by a GP asap to have proof it happened. That way the school has to act and can't ignore it.

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Marne · 22/10/2010 20:38

Thank you, i have taken photo's, i will see how she is in the morning (take more photo's if it looks worse). She seems ok (her normal self) but it must have hurt when she did it, she said her face hit the playground Sad.

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3littlefrogs · 22/10/2010 20:40

Take photos and take her to your GP so that it is documented. This is really important, I really hope it was an isolated incident, but if anything should happen again, you need all the evidence documented.

emptyshell · 22/10/2010 20:42

Trying to think how to put this... I would have happily asked which bits were banged and looked at knees and elbows and the like - but furtling around hips and backs I'd be more hesitant of (of course some kids will happily volunteer the information so to speak and if they're pulling tops up to show you that's a different matter).

Could be that if as you're saying, the bruises are only just coming up now - there wasn't much to show for it at the time?

If she'd hit her head then I'd be expecting a headbump letter to have been sent out... of course, that may well be mouldering in a tray in the classroom if it's anything like my old class!

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Marne · 22/10/2010 20:49

Empty- she did hit her head (that was the one mark that you could clearly see) and grazed her elbow but the teacher did not tell me Sad. I know that the bruises on her back and hip may not have been picked up (as you said 'teachers dont check these areas'). This isn't the first time this term that this has happened, dd1 was pushed over by another child and badly bruised her back, she was not checked even though she was walking oddly (with pain), her back was bad for a couple weeks.

Dd1 does make a lot of fuss when she's hurt (if she gets a scratch she will howl for hours), maybe the school have got used to her making a fuss so don't really think much of it when she falls. She falls a lot as her balance is poor (we think she has dyspraxia).

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brimfull · 22/10/2010 20:53

Your poor dd. This would def worry me as well.

Does your dd bruise easily? By that I mean she could have been jostled in a manner that wouldn't normally bring someone out in bruises.. Doesn't account for the graze though.

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Marne · 22/10/2010 20:56

No, she doesn't bruise easily (unlike her sister who seems to mark when i lift her in and out the bath). The bruises are really dark blue so she must have landed with some force.

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brimfull · 22/10/2010 20:57

dark blue means they happened a while ago
they are red , then yellow then blue.

brimfull · 22/10/2010 20:59

oops meant red /blue then yellow

brimfull · 22/10/2010 21:03

i am talking shit ignore me

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Marne · 22/10/2010 21:04

They are hard to explain without looking, they are quite dark in colour but still red around the bruise. She said it happened on her last break so 1.30-2ish? I didn't see them until 7pm when i was dressing her. When i led on her bed with her (to read a book) the area around her eye looked blue/green (bruised) and the bump on her head was red and slightly raised.

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lisad123isgoingcrazy · 22/10/2010 21:04

sorry to hear that, poor DD.
DD2 had a wacking bruise on her head last week that nursery didnt know how she'd done it. She rarely cries if hurt, the have taken to checking her before we leave

brimfull · 22/10/2010 21:07

It is appalling the school did not inform you

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Marne · 23/10/2010 09:20

She seems ok this morning, she has a black eye (but not too bad) and her bruises are not hurting her. I'm still a bit Angry that the school did not say anything.

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Teacher401 · 23/10/2010 11:12

Maybe it was a simple human error and the teacher forgot! It can happen. Maybe she/he planned to come and tell you but a parent wanted them or a child needed their help and by the time they came to find you with a bump note you had gone home. Give them the benefit of the doubt, don't go in angrily.

carefulwiththataxe · 23/10/2010 12:08

I would definitely go in to school and talk to them about this, but in a calm way. I do a school lunch duty sometimes and there are certain children who tend to make a massive fuss about very minor scrapes on the playground, and it is all to easy to not take them very seriously after a while (wrongly, of course). Point out to the school in a non-confrontational way that you have some concerns and they should look into the situation and keep more of an eye on her.

wotnochocs · 25/10/2010 17:54

Her bruises are at different sides of teh body though .To have bruised spine and black eye and hip sounds very very odd..It does not sound like a straightforward knocking over incident

mebaasmum · 25/10/2010 18:05

Definetly take her to your GP. If it wasnt a big incident and she is bruising like this something is wrong with her and heeds checking out. Or it was a big incident and the school needs to investigate what went on, no excuses

MumBarTheDoorZombiesAreComing · 25/10/2010 22:23

Hope your DD is feeling better now Sad.

My DS when 5yo came home with a cut lip from being hit by a lunchbox. He said he told the dinner lady who told him he should be queueing up Hmm. I did complain and got even crosser when their defnse was shed managed to record 3 other incidents. Confused. I pointed out a cut was evident, it had obviously happened. They're a bit sarcy now with accident forms where a child had hurt him but I look past that and I'm glad when a child kicks him in the head the form says so not - bang to the head.

Hope all gets sorted and keep us posted so we can support you and DD.

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