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Is this bullying or am i over thinking it.

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fernie3 · 20/10/2010 17:18

My 6 year old started at a new school after the summer holidays going into year one. The second day she came home and said that ine if the girls had said she wasn't her friendl we didn't think much if it but since then and especially over the last couple of weeksmshe has started saying things like the girl has told her that she has " lumpy hair" or that she "doesn't have a nice family". My daughter has not made a fuss about going to school but she is not very enthusiastic and says things like the fact that she imagines that she is at home and pretends she is not there all day :(.
Yesterday when i took her in she ran off to try and play with a grow if girls but the leading girl turned around and shouted that she wasn't her friend and the group ran off and left my daughter in her own.

At parents evening last week we were told that my daughter doesn't mix with other children and sticks near the teacher so i am worried that this is affecting her mire than she is letting on. The teacher said at parents evening that is was normal Child behaviour but im not really happy with it being ignored. If you have experience if children this age do i need to make more of a fuss? Or is it just something that will blow over.

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fernie3 · 20/10/2010 17:20

Sorry for all the mistakes my laptop is broken so doing this on my phone is not that easy and it keeps changing my words!

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GreenStinkingStumpSleeves · 20/10/2010 17:23

Poor little love Sad she isn't having a very nice time is she?

I don't think the teacher/school has done anything wrong, but I would be making a bit more of a noise about it I think - is there a home-school diary? Is the teacher happy to be contact before or after school for a proper chat?

At this age the children may just need a bit of focused work on friendships/kindness/including others to help them understand why leaving others out is wrong

I don't know whether it is bullying at this point or not, but it may well be heading that way and I would want to work with the teacher to turn it around before it goes any further

carefulwiththataxe · 20/10/2010 17:25

Hmm - I would definitely have a quiet word with the teacher. I think that this is something she should be aware of and keeping an eye on. If you don't get much out of her then a - very low-key - word with the head might be in order.

scurryfunge · 20/10/2010 17:26

I would invite a few girls round for tea to kick start a friendship.

ForMashGetSmash · 20/10/2010 20:51

Yes...make more noise...the school needs to STAMP on this behaviour. Exclusion IS bullying....if I were you I would make an appointment to see the head and see what they plan to do about it. Also tell your DD that it is only because she is still new...and that it WILL get better. And then get DD into Brownies or some sort of dance or drama club...this will help her confidence.

Hav you chatted to any of the Mums yet? Do try to...and if you meet one or two who seem nice, let them know...I know that if a nw Mum tod me that her DD was having a hard time like yours is I woould encourage my own DD to make friends with her...in a flash....we can ALL understand the dread f our child being left out....it will get better but get down o school nd make them formulate a plan to stop this exclusion...which IS bullying.

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