WWYD. Kissing at infant school

[halfapoundoftreacle]

My DS is in Y1 and befriended at boy in reception who has just started. They didn't know each other until they met at school.

My DS is quite taken with this boy and always stops to say hello to him on the way into school. He also plays with him at break time and lunch time. They also get to spend some afternoons together in the same class room as reception is a gradual intake over the next term and the children are mixed more freely in the afternoons at the moment.

Here it comes... My DS has told me that he likes this boy and he has kissed him. Not on the cheek but on the lips.

Now I know that this is nothing but a display of affection for his new friend, there's a lot of kissing that goes on in our house as we are a demostrative lot. But I just feel it's inappropriate.

I've told DS that kissing on lips with anyone at school is not such a good idea because of spreading germs, coughs and colds. And besides he wouldn't kiss his teachers, would he?

But I think it's got a reaction from his peers and now it's a laugh to DS.

I have spoken to the other boys parents a couple of times to say hello, and they say that their son talks about my DS at home, so they are obviously friends. Would you say anything to the parents?

It's nearly time to break for half term and I don't know whether to leave it for now and hope that it doesn't reoccur after the holidays. Or should I say something to the teacher? BTW, I have had lots of chats to her recently about DS's happiness at school and behaviour with another couple of boys. I feel like I'm becoming a PITA.

I just dont' think I'd be too pleased if DS came home to say that an older boy kissed him on the lips at school.

Anyone?

I'd speak to the school. It takes a while for children to realise the difference between school and home e.g they can kiss their 5 yr old cousin, who is like a friend but not a 5 yr old at school.

I'm sure if you ignore it he'll stop. I don't imagine he's snogging them!

I think you're over-thinking it and while I DO see your concern...I don't think you should worry at all.

It's not lke your DS is 8 or 9...he's just begun year one...tiny still. I know it would not worry me if the younger boy told me that...the teachers are usually on top of this kind of thing anyway. They had to ban hugging at my DD's school....there was too much of it apparently!

is it the germs you are worried about?

Hmmm - I would have a low-key word with your child's teacher. Teachers tend to discourage this sort of thing (probably in case a parent complains) and they will sort it out.
I'm sure there is no problem here but it wouldn't do your son any harm to learn what is appropriate or inappropriate behaviour at school. (If older children see this they may well seize upon it as a massive wind-up opportunity and the situation will get worse).

I help out at school and found a group of infants kissing each other at playtime, I thought to myself it's only kids enjoying a laugh, but on the other hand is it right, should I let school know?

Thanks guys.

Perhaps I am overthinking it mash. My worst case scenario would be if the other boys parents marched over to me and asked what the heck my son is doing kissing their little boy.

And really, that's not that bad. They are just 4 and 5 years old. Careful, you're right what you say about if they were older it could be an opportunity to tease.

Germs is not the problem, blimey I'm sure that there are plenty of ways to share those at school other than kissing. It was just my way of trying to deter DS from pursuing the kissing.

I'll just stop worrying and enjoy half term and be glad that DS has a friend he really likes at school. Plus hopefully DS will want to give me lots of kisses instead! ahhh...

You could mention to him that we tend not to kiss friends on the lips and let him see this when you meet friends (assuming you don't kiss your friends on the lips ).

thumb personally the only people I kiss on the lips are DH and my two DSs. That's it.

Close family get a kiss on the cheek and only a tiny number of friends. I'm demostrative but not a Mwah Mwah kinda girl.

Each to their own, ha ha.

halfapoundoftreacle,
I would try to explain to your ds that it is a convention in society not to kiss friends on lips. Not because you find anything wrong or right with it but because I guess at some point someone is going to tell him it is not the thing to do, and he may not understand why. I would like to be the one explaining to my child instead of having him confused about what he may have done wrong.