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Moving school again?

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moodyblues · 17/10/2010 21:13

Hi, I posted this in the chat section and didn't get any response. Maybe it should be here???

I would like a little bit of advice please. Am trying to work out whether another move would be catastrophic for our 7year old ds.

We moved back from overseas where he had spent all his life (albeit in an English school, etc.) at the end of last year and went home to the town dh and I grew up and all our friends and family still live.

Being at home was great but dh wasn't happy in the new job and started looking for something else. The something else came along, great job but an hour and a half away from home.

He was happy to commute and stay away a couple of nights a week but I felt it was more important that the family stays together so we moved in the summer hols.

DS is now in his new school and loving it. The town is welcoming but.....we don't like it here. We are both missing home, friends, family, etc. (the reasons we moved back to UK in the first place).

So what do we do now? DH wants us to move home and he goes back to commuting. I would like to be back there but I still feel the same way about the family being together but, more importantly, will another move totally fuck up DS? His third in a year.

Educationally he is doing fantastically well, he is bright and, most importantly, interested, engaged and enthusastic. I'm worried that I will lose some of that forever if we move him again.

He loves this school and the overseas school, but struggled to make friends in the one in our home town so he is not excited by a move back to that school. That means it would be school number 4 in a year.

Help! We are not just being pathetic and wanting to be close to Mum. I actually don't speak to my Mum that much. We just think it would give the best chance of stability, a happier Mum and Dad, a good home (much cheaper housing there) and a more rounded life.

Any advice welcome. Thanks for reading.

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MaudOHara · 17/10/2010 22:41

I think at this age children are very adaptable and with love and support will quickly fit in and make new friends.

But iiwy I would be equally stressed about the prospect.

ForMashGetSmash · 17/10/2010 22:47

As long as you are entirely sure that this is it for his primary education then you should move...in my own DD's school I have seen a number of children come and go and come back again in a couple of cases. Its probably because my DD's school is private and lts of the parents get short term contracts abroad...or they are simply looking or the best options for kids.

As young as your son is he wil be just fine...it's when they get to around 10 or 11 that they get more imovable in my opinion.

I am actually removing my on DD from school for 6 months to be with DH abroad where e is working...and then bringing them back which is tough but in the end family comes first.

He will be fine and when he is older will barely remember all this.

moodyblues · 18/10/2010 09:13

Thank you for your replies, it's nice to know we may not be totally insane for thinking about it!

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vess · 18/10/2010 23:11

I would stay where you are tbh - commuting is horrible and i can't imagine anyone choosing to do it when there's another viable option.

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