Sick of teacher mentioning "issues" in my DD's book

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Every few days there seems to be an "Issue". She's in year 2 at a private school...first it's that she works too slowly...so I buy a timer and sort that out and she speeds up...teacher happy..then she gets ALL her spelling test wrong last week despite usually getting 10 out of ten....the whole class struggled with that particular set by the way...seems none of them were familiar with the sound combination...

then she is "reading too slowly" then today it is that DD is counting "wrong" when she does counting in tens...at least I THINK that's the problem..teachers comments are garbled...and she says in them that I can "come in fo a chat if I like"

I saw her teacher in passing earlier today when I dropped my DD's forgotten drink off and teacher said "Oh DD has done very well at maths today...2 whole pages!"...so there I am... all pleased...pick DD up later, look in her book and there's some other bloody complaint about her! Does the teacher need to let me know EVERY minutae of her development!? Is it normal? I am an anxious person by nature and find I am quizzing poor DD abut things...they get homework nightly.

Almost every day there is some bloody issue...teacher has not said there is cause for concern but is this normal? DD is youngest in class...bright, happy and very srticulate...but this is getting on my nerves!

She iis hapy at school...friends fine... no issues at all....the spelling test was a set of five..teacher had lowered the amount because DD got 2 wrong the pevious week...seemed silly to me..to reduce the amount because DD got TWO wrong!

Sounds great to me! We get no feedback whatsoever
but we're not private, this is the sort of thing you're paying for

Good grief...if this is how it is...I cant cope!

Go in and see her. Maybe other parents like that kind of minutiae - let her know that if there are big issues you want to know but otherwise, you think positive encouragement is the way to go (or however it is you'd prefer to hear about things...)

You should send them to a state school. My son hasn't had a comment in over 2 years!
I know friends kids who are at a private school that do that too. I always wonder what the class is doing when the are writing in 15 or so sets of books every day.

But at least some of her comments should be positive. Is the home school communication a selling point for the school?

Ds's teacher does the same but to the exclusion of the bigger picture - eg' Ds kept in at break time because failed to concentrate on work.' Ds was diagnosed with a memory problem earlier in the year that manifests itself in lacking concentration. Ds has one hour a week extra help (that I pay for) but rather than the time bring used to help ds's memory it is used to complete work he failed to do.

Sometimes I really do think we'd be better off in a class of 30 rather than 15 and then the teacher wouldn't have the time to make up 'ishoos'.

reup....I am probably having a bad day...she does say positive thngs too...sunch as when DD has read well or done well at maths...but there are only 9 in the class and a teaching assistant...so it probs doesn't take much out of the day to write the comments. Te school is not a particularly media savvy one...they don't sell themselves at all really...iny ad in the loval paper every year.

Mollie...that sounds a bit crap of them...is that all they offered?

My god with that adult teacher ratio none of them should have any problems ever!!

Adult child I mean!

I know reup! I do sometimes think how come my bright DD cannot seem to have one issue free week? If there's problem with her then TELL ME!

I've got a meeting after half term so I can throw my toys out and stamp my feet.

Ds doesn't really help himself though. Today he tried to flush another boy's sock down the toilet when changing for sports. He didn't succeed as the other boy held up both his socks and Ds then realised he had tried to flush his own sock.

Lol Mollie! Tried to flush another boys sock!

But this is what you're paying for! Constant communication on every simple point, otherwise how will you know you're getting value for the money you're paying out

It just confirms my long-held view that Ds really is Just William.

Ds1 is in year 3 at a state school, and is apparently such a 'free reader' that he hasn't been heard by an adult. Once. At all this year. In fact, not once since february 2010.

I'd try not to worry and be grateful they are talking to you.

@colditz,

That isn't acceptable - DD2 is in yr 3, free reader since yr 1, but she's heard at least every other week, by her teacher not a TA. This is in a state school too.

i know [sigh] but they are the only mainstream school who will take him with his diagnosis so as he IS a fair reader I just let it ride.

colditz I have the same problem. DS is a free reader and has only read to an adult once this term. He does read all the time at school though, to himself, so they know and I know that he's getting enough reading done.

It's a double edged swrd I think...in our school the kids are under a microscope....in some they're neglected...both can be good in small measures.

You are lucky! My ds is y3 and has not had a member of staff write in his Reading book since the start of y1. To be fair they do more guided Reading groups. I have complained a lot!

Maybe they feel that if you are paying for it, you need to know her every move ? Overkill imo

Education is a partnership between parents, teachers and child so I think you should be glad of the comments in the prep book - it's normal. Must say the comments at DS's school used to be worded more subtley though.