Wasn't sure where to post this but I think I need a little perspective!
My DD has had an on/off relationship with a child in her class, I'll call the child 'P' I became quite good friends with 'P's mother, at times to my daughters detriment as I would hear things that 'P' would say once her mother was out of earshot but would try to brush over it/make light of it for the sake of my relationship with her mother.
'P' has been verbally nasty to my daughter at school and has had her in tears on many, many ocasions. I tried encouraging my daughter to ignore any nastiness and to encourage other friendships.
My daughter has been doing this as best she can but its bakfired as 'P' then accused my daughter of 'bullying' her. I was confronted by 'P's mother. It upset me greatly the way in which she accused my daughter of bullying without once considering her daughters part in it all.
I decided that I really didn't want to maintain the relationship with 'P's mother so I backed off, for the sake of my daughter and also for my sake as I was beginning to feel that she was targeting my daughter unfairly. I stopped going out of my way to talk to 'P's mother, in fact I backed off from the school playground in general as I was so upset by it all. And to be honest I began to see a completely different side to 'P's mother once I was out of the thick of it. It now transpires that she is considered 2 faced by the majority of the playground.
Fast forward to today and my daughter and 'P' are getting on great(!). My daughter asked why I don't talk to 'P's mum much, I told her that I just don't see her around very much anymore (didn't want to tell her my feelings on it all!!). She then divulged that 'P' had told my daughter that her mum has a nickname for my daughter. I won't repeat it on here. But its certainly not a complimentary one! My daughter wants me to start talking to 'P's mum again so that 'P' s mum will stop calling her this nickname!!
How bloody cross am I! Despite my feelings on 'P' and her mother since this blew up, I have never ONCE spoken about it in front of, or to, my daughter. And certainly not given 'P' a nasty nickname!!
My poor daughter! Am I right to be as incensed as I am?!