teachers reassure me please

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ds is finding it very stressful at new school because one of his new friends constantly talks to him when he should be quiet.
Ds is one of these kids who would rather poke hot needles in his eyes than get told off by teacher.
This is causing him mega stressies and he looks miserable , is much quieter not as confident etc.
Spoke to teacher today and she brought this up first as the poss reason for his delay in settling.
She has told ds to sit where he wants when they are allowed to choose , ds says verbal diarrhoea boy always sits next to him , he is also on the same table as this boy.
They are very friendly out of school which is no problem

Do you think the teacher will make a point of separating them now or will ds need to get used to it?

thanks

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Could you suggest to him to wait a minute before sitting down so he sees where the other boy is sitting and can choose a different table?

"Verbal diarrhoea boy"

Can see that one sticking....I think Sassyfrassy has a great suggestion...stops all of that havinng a word with the teacher business.

Is verbal diarrhoea boy acually putting your DS off concentrating or is it more that your DD feels he has to respond?

I would also tell DS not to respond...but to say early on, "Tell me at break...I'm going to do my work now"

If it goes on the VD boy is going to have to be dealt with.

pmsl at the verbal diarrhoea boy

thanks for replies
ds doesn't talk back to VD boy ,but he does find it harder to concentrate
I will tell him to change position and see if that works , but tbh can see vd boy scurrying after him.

I would have thought that if the teacher recognises that they don't make a good pairing for work that she could tell both of them not to sit next to each other. Am a teacher myself and must admit that most of the time I don't give children a choice in where to sit.

Can't decide if VD boy sounds worse than the full moniker!

My DD had a similar thing with a child who had some emotional problems...the child had a compulsion to visit the loo literally every ten minutes and she started to drag my DD with her...the teachers were aware of this and put a firm stop to it..your DS's teacher needs to ensure VD boy is near a child who is not pressured or annoyed by him...ie. not your son!

You need to ask the teacher to officially move him away from VD boy so that they can't sit together. Not fair to leave it up to your ds.

I'd just leave it to the teacher to sort out
are they in reception?

yr 3
will wait and see how next week goes
he has NQ teacher so am not sure how she works.

ggirl

I understand your dilemma completely.

I am bracing myself for a conversation with ds's teacher tomorrow morning on a similar matter. See thread "mixed ability tables".