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7+ entrance examsn for boys... any tips?

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Checkmate · 23/09/2010 11:44

We put DS1 in the same mixed pre-prep as DD1, mainly because of superb pastoral care, but also convenience, which has been great for him. He has to move next September as its girls only from y3.

We now have an all-rounder mixed school, all-rounder boys school, and highly academic boys school as options. He could have gone to the "all-rounder" schools at 4 without assessment, but they have academic & social assessments for y3. We're going to apply to the academic one too, on current schools advice, but I think that he probably isn't academic enough.

The current school are helping in class time with the kind of assessments the boys will go through, and he enjoys this kind of thing (problem solving etc..). I'm worried though about the emotional impact of this on him, and regretting not going for one of the other schools initially, to avoid the assessments. We're planning on telling him that the assessments are to see if he enjoys the kind of work they do in each school (he likes schoolwork, especially maths), and then to announce that whichever school he gets into is "the one we've decided we like the best" and not tell him he didn't get a place at the other/s.

Any more tips from those who've gone through this? I hate the idea of assessments at age 6 (he's summer born); it just seems like so much pressure for the child, but that's the system and I can't do much about it...

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Checkmate · 23/09/2010 11:45

Sorry for typo in title - the only time I get to mnet lately is while bfing DS2.

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cpbp · 23/09/2010 11:56

We went through exactly this last year and I am guessing from your description of the school, my DS was there last year!

We had the same potential selection and whilst if your DS is at the school I think he is, there is a huge pash among the parents for the highly academic boys school, only you will know what is best for your DS.

The school my son went to (and prob the one your DS is at), has very strong links to the highly academic one. He is a summer baby too!

We loved the highly academic one and the mixed one and also liked the boys only one but that one would have been too much of a commute for us.

In the end, we decided to go to the mixed school although if we are referring to the same school, it has far more boys than girls.

It is early days yet but DS is very happy there and we feel we made the right decision. He is a bright boy. Very good reader, not so brill at the maths. I felt that the v selective boys school might have dented his confidence in terms of his place in the class.

It is early days yet and a lot happens over the course of year 2. The teachers know the school really well (if I am right in my guess) and they will know and I am sure tell you in Nov whether they think it is for your little man.

The very best of luck!!

Checkmate · 23/09/2010 19:44

Thanks!

Don't think its the same school actually, as the links with current school are with the less academic boys school. Sounds like they're similar kind of schools though. Your advice is great though, thanks.

How did your son cope with the actual assessments (not so much the work, but the emotions of being tested)? Or is there not assessment for the one you ended up choosing?

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cpbp · 23/09/2010 20:37

We kept it all really low key- no prep by us- just said to do his best. The schools are very good, imo, at putting the boys at their ease. There were assessments for the 3 schools and he told us, after visiting the school he is now in, that he LOVED it. Like finding the right house/man, it all fell into place!

It was us year 2 parents, well the mums in particular, who got anxious. The boys took it all in their stride!
The best of luck to you and your ds!!

Checkmate · 24/09/2010 10:19

That's great to hear - that feeling of knowing its right is exactly what I'm hoping for. I've been thinking of the assessments as something negative, but if it helps him/us decide which we prefer (and the school in question agrees!) then it will be very positive.

Right now I feel like the very academic school is too academic for him, with being so young in the year, as he was prem and due Sep 2002. Being August and therefore up a year is a big disadvantage and even though he's in top sets, he's mostly not top of the top sets, iyswim.

But the other boys school for some reason doesn't stream for maths, (which is the only thing where he is top of the top set) and the class work they're doing looks too easy for him. They're getting a new head though, so he may change this, as lots of parents don't like it...?

Mixed school is huge, and pretty expert at streaming and meeting needs of big variety of children. Very posh parents though, which we're not, and also the furthest away.

Gah, I just want to get a good feeling and go with it, as I did with DD1!

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Sallyssss · 24/09/2010 11:01

I will be doing the same over the next couple of years.(I guess we are talking Chislehurst schools ;-))

I would love my son to go to Eltham College as it's got good sports, but although my son is still very little I am not sure he will be that academic (he has NO interest in anything like counting or letters!).

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