so who have a well behaved mature year 3 child

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who is constantly sat next to the naughtiest child in the class because she is sensible and won't be led but your child hates it as the other child disrupts there work. What would you do

Why are they sat down for long periods?

Doesn't the foundation phase encourage learning through play which means being up and about a lot?

This is year 3 they sit down more

this is a tough one. What's the teacher like to talk to?

I'd talk to the teacher.
I'd be pissed off as the parent and I was pissed off in this situation as the child.
It isn't fair.

Teacher seems strict but nice just worried about going in guns blazing in second week.

I was pissed off with this situaton when I was a child too... It's not fair on the sensible child - it's like she's being punished for her maturity. It also feels to me as if there is some expectation placed on the sensible child to somehow improve the behaviour of the disruptive one. Not fair at all.

so you think I should ask for her to be moved perhaps share the naughty child out

Sorry, I read it wrong - as a 3 year old child.

Ignore me!

That's OK been a very busy week so post wasn't very clear

Happened a lot to DD last year in year 2 - there was one boy who had behaviour issues (most of the time a nice kid but he just couldn't sit still, stop himself from getting up and talking and so on) so DD was often put next to him, or if he was playing up too much and was sent to another classroom, she was more often than not the one sent to take him over as she would have finished her work already.

Can't offer any advice though - I didn't really catch on that this was happening until quite late in the year, when I had already decided to move DD to another school at the end of the year - obviously not specifically because of this, but because of what seemed to be part of the same overall attitude: ignoring the well-behaved, more able ones to focus on the others (they told me at the beginning of year 2 that DD was already exceeding expectations for the end of KS1, and this seemed to mean that they didn't feel the need to stretch her any further).

But if you are sticking with the school and your DD is getting upset, then you should definitely have a calm but firm word with the teacher.

I think it would be a good idea to talk about your concerns with the teacher especially as it's making your DD unhappy.

will pop in next week thanks guys

It happened to me in school and my mum complained straight away. I was moved and nothing was said about it.

Are you sure that it's not just chance and bad luck, rather than the teacher choosing to put a disruptive child with yours?

To be honest not sure

Just talk to the teacher. If he / she knows it is upsetting to your child, they will move her no problem. The tone of some posts is really as if teachers deliberately try to upset kids, this isn't the case, honest! Most teachers will be happy to address this without any fuss at all.

I used to sit the more... 'lively' children on the same table as some quieter children, but not right next to them (if that makes sense?) On one table of 6, for example, there would be 2 children of similar higher 'ability' (How I hate that phrase!) sitting together, 2 'middlies' and then the lively one - possibly sitting next to another child, but more often than not with nobody right next to them. I'd then swap tables around every half term so the children knew they were only there for a few weeks.

Seemed to work, but if there were ever any problems, I'd just swap a few children around and it was all fine.