Is it ok for teachers to accept invitations to parents' parties?

[MixedupMartha]

I'm asking because I recently found out that one of the mums in my DDs class threw an end of term 'thank you' party for the teaching staff, most of whom attended. It was at her house and included lots of drink.

Some of the other parents were there because they are friends with this mum.

Am I being odd in thinking this is a bit wrong? Feel free to disagree!

Agree with JGBMum - bit odd having a 'thank you' party for teachers at the end of the year - never heard of that one either!! I would have steered clear of that one for sure!! Sounds like a mum with too much tiem on her hands trying out for Alpha Mummy. No problem with socialising with parents generally though but would never accept invite from a child in my class as I wouldn't want to go to 30 of them and think the boundaries would definitely be blurred!
Yes, I do like a drink or 3.....

sorry, ought to have clarified - I have no problem with the drink, obviously - being a slattern and partial to copious amounts of gin myself (REALLY? do teachers drink? Fancy that!). The thing was, they were all hung over in school next day (it was a Tuesday night). This is how we found out about it - it just seemed odd to hear the teaching staff complaining they were feeling sick because they'd got hammered at last night's party.

No - I really don't mind that I wasn't invited - it was the issue of keeping a professional distance. DH and I are both in the professions ourselves and would never contemplate taking up this sort of invitation. Feels instinctively odd.

I agree with you that it is a bit odd. The mum in question must be a right kiss arse, the type I would run a mile from! Very elitist as well. I mean she could have said to all the mums in the class wouldn't it be nice if we have a little party and do it in the school or something like that to say thank you for doing a great job with the kids. So agree, she invited the 'select' few and is probably loving rubbing your nose in it.

Skin crawling as I type.........

I agree with OP. I think it is a bit odd. I am obviously old fashioned but I think a professional relationship is better between parents and teachers.

the way your OP describes it, a thank-you party for the teachers with some o the parents involved sounds a bit like sucking up in a weird way. I don't know really that I like that. If all the parents were invited, ok. Still a bit odd in my book

I did have a summer party last year to which I invited colleagues of dh and friends of ours. I also invited dd's basketball and swimming coaches because I like them and their dc are friends of dd's. It was a big thing though, not very intimate at all. I have never invited class teachers anywhere come to think of it. Had never crossed my mind tbh

I think it sounds very odd that the teachers went to a party hosted by a parent and with other parents there, and they got rat-arsed and were talking about feeling ill at school the next day.

So odd that it is hard to believe.

'I agree with OP. I think it is a bit odd. I am obviously old fashioned but I think a professional relationship is better between parents and teachers.'

You can have both sorts, especially if you live in a small village with a good social scene.
The trick is to keep the two separate in your head. Oh, and not to get so pissed that you can't do the job properly the next day.