DS keeps being called "spastic" by a boy in his class, how should he deal with it?

[LadyCad]

Teacher has spoken to the child but it just seems to go on and on. Usually DS copes with it (ignores) but he's tired and emotional at the end of term and it's getting him down.

This boy will be in DS's tutor group when he moves up to secondary school and it would be great if we could give DS a few tips for dealing with it.

Tomorrow's the last day so little point in me seeing his teacher now, btw.

Can you phone the high school and ask for your son to change tutor groups?

Could you speak with the child's parents?

I would monitor it carefully next term as this is bullying. Knock it on the head as soon as it starts.

You ever know the high school might be a lot better at dealing with this kind of thing.

Agree that changing tutor groups would be a good move. As would having a word in advance, explaining that your son has been called this and as they know it is a highly offensive word and you know that they will take it very seriously if it is used...

Changing tutor groups would be difficult. You see, they've already moved him once.We kicked up a fuss about the class he was put into as there was no-one he knew in it, and so the school moved him. At the time we didn't realise the bully was such a problem for DS, and he seemed happy with the new group as it includes a couple of his friends.

It's all a bit of a nightmare, tbh.

teach him to say "Stop being a twat, you sound like my 6 year old sister"

Oh god. My first reaction was to tell your ds to twat him one, good and hard

I punched a bully in 4th yr juniors (Y6, in new money) and that one expresson of violence shielded me from bullies for the rest of my school career.

You should probably ignore me though.

"at least I'm not stupid"

I think Colditz advice is good, especially if he can say it loudly in front of the cool kids.

Riven is right, however, the term is highly offensive and you need to report it to the High School.

Agree with Jenai too, your poor DS. It must be so wareing! I would twat him one too, he won't do it again. This happened with my brother in first year at secondary. It got to the point he just had enough and flipped and boy did they get it! Stopped after that. Sounds like middle school did not deal with it well. Also could you have a word with the boy after school? Or his mother? My mum also did this with a girl who bullied me in middle school and it stopped. My mum caught her after school as I came out in tears and my mum just marched right over to her in front of everyone and had a massive go! Hope all goes well.

I think you should tell the High school. Ask if you can speak to the Welfare Officer, they may say it is too late and if so get the name and send her/him a letter. They always come into school the week before term. That way the school could ensure DS and bully are in different tutorial groups and the problem may never reoccur. If it does the school will have a policy and if that doesn't work Kidscape often offer really good advice. I am aware of a situation where a group of actors went into a school were bullying had become "the norm" and it transformed the school.

Bullies often end up as the losers in life and even in prison but IMO don't ignore it. Locally to me they have started boxing for youngsters again. No one ever bullies a martial arts of boxing child.