Speak to teacher or leave it?

[EvilTwins]

I'm going to try to make this as short as possible...

My DTDs are due to start Reception in September. They were involved in a haircutting incident at nursery a few months ago (I posted on here about it) and the other mother reacted very badly - she basically blamed my DDs and it got quite nasty. Now she doesn't speak to me, and if we see each other (our DDs still attend nursery at the same time one morning per week, they are in the same gymnastics class and we use the same swimming pool) she will blank us. Yesterday, we were swimming at the same time, and my DD went over to speak to her DD and was upset because the other child wouldn't speak to her (I assume because she was with her mum - they still play together when they're at nursery)

Anyway, the are all going to be at the same primary school. The school has put all the children from their nursery in the same class, which is fab. However, this morning, we went to their final settling in session, and the other child was no longer in the same class as my DDs. Her mother must have requested the change, and presumably has given a reason relating to not wanting her DD in with my DTDs.

So, do I speak to the school? I do not want my children down as trouble makers from Day 1- particularly given that the incident which kicked all of this off was one of three 3 yr olds playing hairdressers at nursery and all cutting each others' hair - my DTDs were not bullying or attacking the other girl - she was fully complicit and they all ended up with new hairdos - not just her.

Or do I just leave it? Any advice gratefully received!

They won't be labelled as troublemakers at all. There could be lots of reasons why the child was moved groups. I would encourage your children to continue to be friendly and polite to the child and the mother.....this will make the mother look foolish eventually if she continues to blank you.

They won't be labelled as troublemakers unless the nursery has said that they might be a little 'lively'. TBH is they are trouble the recpetion teacher will be able to spot it a mile off all by herself. Sounds more likely that the other mother will have come up with a warning attached.

I agree - more likely that the mum has a label of 'nightmare' already; they will make up their own minds r.e. your dd's, very unlikely to make an assessment based on another parent's say-so. I bet she kicked up a huge fuss to get her dd moved to another class, too - a lot of schools would refuse.

I can't believe she has taken it this far and is giving you a permanent silent treatment! What an immature mother she is!
I'm just in complete disbelief.
I'm sure the nursery has told the reception teachers about this and she is labelled as a loon already. I agree with the poster who said encourage your dtd's to be really nice to the girl and mum so that she looks foolish.

I rememebr this and cannot believe its still going on. How awful for you!!

Honestly they wont be marking your DTs downa s trouble honestly, but I suspect they already think the other mum is barking!!!

Thanks - that's reassuring. Yes, it's utterly bonkers that it's still going on... The other mother has also cut all contact with other women she met through me (we used different toddler groups) so she's clearly barking. My main concern is that she has told the school that my DTDs were bullying her daughter. Both classes were full, so another child has had to be moved as well - potentially away from his/her friends I can check if nursery has been approached about it.

Silly mare.