My daughter started secondary school last September. She was lately very upset all the time. Wouldn’t want to go
To school in the mornings but after coming back would be happy. Every evening she would complain that she doesn’t want to go to school and she hates school. There were issues regarding certain boys behavior, few times she was pushed and got hurt, also there was lot of disruption in the class and when there were subsitite teachers it would be a lot worse. We as parents were not happy with these things. Also one of her closest friends was all going on about a boy she had a crush on in class. They would constantly be chatting about the boy amd later it happened that my daughter apparently also had crush on him. It was all too much to take and my daughter started lying at home, and would constantly be upset and angry. Her behavior was becoming very bad and she had lost interest and motivation to study.
We decided for her to switch to an all girls school. We finalized everything but before we could confirm to the school she informed her friends and everyone pursuaded her to stay. Again after 6 weeks we convinced her that the current school wasn’t a good option and made sure she liked the new school and that she shouldn’t inform her friends before we confirmed to the new school so she doesn’t change her mind again. After joining the new school she has been very upset and angry. As although she knew some
People from her primary school but most have their own friend ship groups so she is finding it difficult to develop close friendships unlike the old school. At her old school she made a lot of other good friends and is in constant tough with them through messages and phone calls on a daily basis. But here she didn’t had a very good first day as the buddy she was assigned wasn’t very keen in being her friend. So she has developed a mental blog that she doesn’t have any friends here and that she will always be miserable and will never enjoy. Everyday she is so rude to us , screams non stop, says mean stuff that i ruined her life, how much she hates us that we forced her to move and she was happy at the old school. Everyday she wouldn’t want to go and after coming back every day has constant fights that she hates this new school from the bottom of her heart and says that she hopes she dies instead of staying in this school. Every day she says 100 of times how much she hates me for moving her, how much she wishes she disappears and wants to die instead of staying at this new school. I don’t know how to help her navigate all this and start enjoying. Every suggestion i give her she doesn’t want to listen eg saying to arrange play dates with girls from the new school or getting friends contact numbers so can arrange to meet them in the weekend. She just is so adamant and doesn’t want to follow any suggestions and keeps being negative that her life has been ruined because of us.
I understand that it’s still early days and friendships take time but it’s really tiring with constant negativity, anger and non stop meltdowns. Any suggestions on how to deal with this and or if anyone had similar experiences with their kids would be really helpful to know.
Many thanks for reading the long post.