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Send help age 9 - SEN/ other ??

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Totallyfrazzledmum · 25/05/2026 23:07

Honestly cannot cope with age 9YO daughter and not sure if she needs medical attention.

issues below -
— very overweight but says “don’t care”
wont eat proper meals only wants junk / have enforced healthy meals trying not to focus on weight but health and energy. Eats other people’s junk food when out and about.
wants to watch you tube etc constantly, screams when TV goes off (no iPad as very addictive personality)
not settled with any friends - when she does play with others outside school ignores them / is rude to their or own siblings

  • for the past 6 months keeps mentioning about “just kill me” “you want me dead”
  • clings and cries going to school however school says she is fine in the door.
  • wont wear any normal clothes - a battle trying to get her to wear anything at all despite multiple shopping trips.
  • rough with siblings
  • runs off when out and about / hides
  • wants to “chew” before bed
  • shows no interest in anything other than TV!

honestly at wits end as family don’t want to be around her as such hard work. Often has meltdowns about nothing then says “I’m stupid” we have tried to speak to her to find out what is wrong but she says she doesn’t know and that nothing is upsetting her in school.

i am not sure which path to take as school are not worried about SEN.

OP posts:
rollitonio · 25/05/2026 23:12

Sounds like autism to me, I’d get on to your GP and ask for an assessment.

ElevenGreenBottlesOnAWall · 25/05/2026 23:21

Also think it sounds like autism but you might get some more immediate support from an OT to look at her sensory needs and give practical guidance.

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