Sleepover issues 11yo DS

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My son had a sleepover on Tuesday at his friends house. Both are in year 7. My son told me that in the night his friend kept asking personal questions about things like his body and what he thinks about girls. Then showed him a picture of boobs and asked if he liked them. My DS is still pretty innocent in that department hence him telling me everything as he was worried he’d get in trouble. Does anyone have any advice on if I should take action or say anything? I’m a single parent so there’s no dad around. I get that at 11 these things will be talked about between friends and curiosity is natural. I just don’t know what is best to discuss with him.

Imo 11 years old is the perfect time to have “the talk” with him. He needs to hear from you what is normal behaviour for this pubescent stage and what is unacceptable. You describe him as innocent which is lovely, but at 11, for his own protection he needs a basic awareness of sex and boundaries when it comes to his body. I’m certain there are lots of free resources and guidance online as to how best to tackle this talk. And above all, keep the communication open and light, don’t imply shame in any way. Its so great he can talk openly with you.

as for the behaviour from his friend, i would wonder how (or why) he is accessing inappropriate content and it would be the last time he’d be having a sleepover at that house. I don’t know if i would say anything to parents, it might depend on how well i knew them.

Was the sleepover boy showing him pictures on his phone?

He should have the basics from school but has he any books on puberty etc that you could use as a starting point for a discussion.

And I know this may be yelled at😁

But any post-puberty males in your family who can do a follow up chat?

who know the small stuff women can never go through. Eg father has the theory of periods but never had one