Year 7 and friendships

[Rainingcatsandmice]

My DS started Year 7 in September. He seemed to make new friends, talking less about primary school friends and been walking to and from school with a new friend. But now it seems to have fizzled out and he has no one to walk with. He says he has friends and chats to his primary friends. But is this normal for Year 7 friendships to keep changing?? I still don’t feel he’s settled in a group after 2 terms.

Yes and also to reassure you as long as he’s content then I’d just let him find his own feet - let him talk, don’t provide solutions

My dd went through a wobbly patch in y7 and y8 and by mid y8 settled into some lovely friendships. Until end of y9 she walked home alone by choice, she just didn’t want company at the end of a long day.

Then y9 just seems to blossom - she now has a huge and wide group of friends and walks home with several friends every day. She still isn’t massively sociable outside school but that’s more normal than it used to be, I think.

Thank you so much for your reassuring reply, its much appreciated!

I've come across this thread and also really like your reassuring reply! I've not been great so far at just listening to my DD in the middle of a seemingly never ending whirl of friendship changes and fallouts, I'm desperate to give advice and fix things for her. Surprise surprise my advice isn't always / ever helpful